Hi Lemons,
Your concern with details is intense but OK. You will be well educated from your passionate search for enlightenment. However, ultimately I think you will learn that it is not as important as you think. I will post here again, what I wrote to you on the "passing" thread...
Hi Lemons,
Andrea James wrote about the three critical areas of passing over a decade ago, I believe they are still true today.
1. Face (solved with FFS + Hormones)
2. Beard (solved with Laser + Hormones)
3. Voice (solved, best, in my opinion with VFS.)
FFS, VFS, Hormones and beard removal will allow 95% of those undergoing those procedures to pass. Perhaps even 98% to 99% (Add SRS and "pass" naked.)
Hands, feet, waist to hip ration, breast size, height are all distractions (have little effect on passing or getting clocked) to the primary goal. The only time these things (big hands for example) will be mentioned is when the person, who brings up big hands as an issue, already knows the person is trans. Either because the transperson reveals it openly or because the transperson was clocked due to shortcomings in beard removal, voice correction or masculine facial features.
I will personally add that having your natural hair rather relying on a wig is helpful. But, still, is not one of the "core" items.
Kind Regards,
Danielle
I will add to this comment that if I told 100 people Gisele Bündchen was trans (and they did not know Gisele Bündchen) 91 of those people would find some aspect (after the fact!) that proves to them it was true. "oh, yeah, now that you mention it, he/she does have big hands, is too tall, has a masculine jaw..." they would find something to confirm what they now believe. In a way you are doing this, right now, with yourself. Lemons, eventually, as you learn and evolve in your femininity you will be OK.