I just told my mom....

[MeganeRei]

Well, after changing my name to 'Mel' on facebook and setting the gender as male so it uses male pronouns for me on there, I got a FB message from mom who was asking me she noticed these changes and if there was anything I wanted to tell her/could tell her.

Sooo I took the plunge. I was kind of hoping she'd bring up the subject first because I had no idea how to. It's easier to explain when I know she knows there's something up.
I kind of stumbled my way through first briefly explaining the difference between sex and gender, mentioning Caitlin Jenner, and all that fun stuff, how I've always felt like a boy, wanted male anatomy, have always hated having female anatomy(slight exaggeration because sometimes I like my boobs but not enough I want them for the rest of my life...) and yeah.

I would imagine she will be confused but supportive. Still have no idea how dad or my younger sister will take it. My older sister I'm not very worried about...

gosh I'm nervous and am gonna cry again probably lol

[Dena]

You just did what may be one of the hardest things you will ever do in your life. There will be much to do in the future but you have accomplish much today. Good job and let us know if you need any help.

[Laura_7]

Very well done 

*hugs*

Here are some resources that might help you:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,192499.msg1716659.html#msg1716659

wish you luck and a good outcome...

I'd say stay calm and simply explain a few things if necessary...
don't be nervous, just be yourself...
and some people use a twin explanation... they wil be like their male/female twin, with still the same sense of humour...


big *hugs*

[MeganeRei]

I'm more worried about my dad and little sister knowing than my mom, but boy do I hate keeping secrets about myself....

I'm pretty anxious, and probably will be until she's read the message, and discussing this in person will be tough. I might tell my sister tonight when I know we're going to be trapped in the car together on the way to writer's group...
But yeah.

Thanks for the support, though guys!

[Laura_7]

I'd say try to stay calm... explain to them... you should have a lot of knowledge by now, so you might just tell them... and maybe talk a bit about your feelings...

just be yourself...and if they should have restraints, don't get puzzled, just be yourself and stick to your point of view...


hugs

[Dena]

The odds are your dad is going to learn about this pretty quickly from your mother. If not at work, it will be shortly after he walks in the door. As for your sister, I don't know when or how that will happen.

[MeganeRei]

I'm fine with mom telling dad. I just don't know how he's gonna take it and I don't really want to discuss it with him... If anything I'd be willing to write him an email since I can convey myself better through text than through speaking.

I'm sure it will all be fine... at least THIS coming out won't be as sudden as when I told my family I was gay.
That was fun. I had been asking dad(and everyone else was around) if I could get my lip pierced and he was super against it and we were both digging our heels in(I was 17 I think then?) and things were super tense, and then I was like: Oh BY THE WAY, since everyone's here, might as well tell you all I'm gay!'

The next day mom said that dad said he was more fine with that then me getting my lip pierced(which I did anyway lol)

My family's fun....

[Dena]

I don't know, you seem to be a real handful

[MeganeRei]

Good lord, that's probably an understatement LOL I am definitely a handful, which is why I feel bad springing this also on them, but I can't really help who I am deep down.


SO  my mother replied. She was pretty calm in her typing, told me she didn't fully understand since she's not in my skin/mind/body and that no matter what that she'd love me, and also that my explanation confirmed what she's been suspecting.
I've just been going by 'Mel' even though my full name is Melody, which is a very pretty name, but also feminine, and she recognised I might not like that, but it's who I am to her. Doesn't really bother me; I think she took it well.

She told me she has her own feelings about this that need processed, and I can respect that. It definitely took me several days to a week process it myself...

But I'm feeling pretty good right now, I think.