I got outed at work!

[RavenL]

Just a quick update. More then halfway done today eleven hour shift. Everything is going great! No strange looks or questions and get treated like everyone else.

Already got ma'am a lot today and have more people asking me question. Also my makeup hasn't fallen apart like I was afraid of, revelon color stay is great! Also it's weird today is the first time I've enjoyed my job even if it's high stress today.

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[Lady Smith]

Yay! that is so wonderful Raven.  I am so happy for you

[Dena]

What did I tell you. By the end of the day you pre transition nerves will be a thing of the past. Good Work.

[Fashionite]

Good on you Raven, it is so exciting to hear about your first steps into going full time. Very proud of you even though I don't know you personally. Keep it up.

[Jessie Ann]

Congrats girl!  Glad it went well for you. Hugs!

[Cindy]

I'm so proud of you Raven! From fear to transition in a single thread!

Wonderful!

[RavenL]

Thanks ladies

Just another quick update before I got back in. Eleven hours is brutal and I said I'd work twelve today why?

It was nice that some people that kind of new me before didn't recognize me at all! My new manager that's over grocery is totally awesome and was telling another manager that "I'm really going to get along with her and she's going to teach me a lot!" And pretty much everyone that I've heard so far is making an effort to gender me correctly just a few slip ups once in a while that I'm letting go. The female workers are super friendly towards me now and got so many hello's yesterday! Another manager that was on vacation for a week came back last night and she was super happy for me and me and her and another manager sat in the office and talked about work for twenty minutes last night. Something that's never happend to me before.

I do have one funny story to share. The way the trucks are unloaded at my work there are two different bays at each end of the store one for the bigger trucks and ones where the freight is just pulled off by pallets. A driver put the bigger truck in the wrong dock and my guys that I used to be over had no idea what to do. Well guess who they had to turn to? From not really caring about me the past week all the sudden it was "Raven how are we going to get this done? Tell us what to do!" I helped them out for a while and at least got them started till the issue was fixed.

[Dena]

Talk about a transition, you not only transition your gender but you transition your job at the same time. This is the first time I ever heard about a two for one like this!!

[kellypatrick]

Wow Raven that is quite a thread. You started off so worried about being outed but decided to move up your plans and go full time, got promoted and everything is going great for you so far.I am really happy for you that your coworkers have embraced you. Looking forward to read more about your transition as it progresses.

[RavenL]

Sorry I haven't posted any updates. Its literally been get up go to work and then sleep. I've worked over fifty hours since Friday! Dena, I know right? It felt weird doing two new things both at once!

Thanks Kelly!

So here is the update for the previous two days and what I've experienced.

Sunday night I got the dreaded "Sir" from behind by a customer at least he said "Sorry ma'am" When I turned around. I know I shouldn't but it pretty much ruined the night for me. And I told a few of my friends about it and they all said I look excatly like a girl so oh well. I also experienced having guys check me out and I'm pretty sure one was trying to get a date out of me.

Monday was interesting since every supervisor was there since most are off on the weekend. All of them were really nice towards me. Also I guess I'm really being accepted as female since two female associates who never really liked me are super happy for me and were becoming fast friends. One of the mangers pretty much told me she's jealous of me since I do my makeup better then her. The funny thing is guys are still kind of uncomfortable towards me and not really sure how to talk to me. One guy that has been my friend for almost four years now at work didn't even speak to me Monday.

Also customers treat me different females are super nice and smile when talking to me. I've also experienced how some guys are down right rude to me acting like I don't know what I'm talking about. While others are super nice to me now. But its more nice the rude and I can deal with it.

Tuesday I think was the best day out of the week. Everyone knows about me now and a lot more people started talking to me and saying hello. Also more are comfortable asking me how I picked my name and telling me I'm brave and stuff. I know one lady in the deli hates me since every time I get the "I wish you were dead look" But so far that's the worst thing I've gotten from anyone out of like four hundred people.  And I did get called ma'am three times yesterday which made my day!

All and all I'm going to stick with it and do feel a lot better about myself. Also I'm getting told I sound really confident now and not super low like I used to. Oh and I took the big step and made an appointment with an endocrinologist but I have to wait till November which really is not to long.

And bonus me Saturday vs Tuesday me you can tell I'm worn out