Quote from: regina on September 09, 2007, 11:25:33 AM
So guys, I'm curious... there seem to be a lot of FTMs here who prefer the company of gay men. Is this because they're cooler/less jerks (?) than straight men, because they're more understanding (more queer) of what you've gone through, because when you might have been identifying as a dyke (some of you) those are the male friends you hung out with and just kept them in your life or because you're now identifying as gay men as well? Just wondering.
ciao,
Gina M.
For me it's a little bit of all of them. I've chosen to stay with the queer community rather than leave it since starting my transition, and as such have a lot of gay male friends from the queer department at uni. They are (mostly) very understanding of my situation, often are interested and want to know things about it, and are just really decent guys who wouldn't dare say anything negative about it. Straight guys on the other hand, I find are a little harder to make friends with. The ones I had from school I've mostly kept up with, but I had a couple of weird reactions from them, and I haven't dared come out to any other straight guys I meet. When I was out as a lesbian I made friends with the guy I consider myself married to now. We both come out to each other on the same night and I think that's where the bond started. I then later came out as trans and he was really, really good about it so it's been really easy to hold onto that friendship. As for the 'are you identifying as a gay man now' question, I'm going through a process of re-questioning my sexuality. I have a feeling it's more about wanting to look and be like them than actually be
with them, but who knows. For now I loosely identify as a heterosexual man with a lot of gay friends.