Odd sexuality

[BryanB33]

Ok, so I'm not confused i just dont know what I am because I'm an ftm who is attracted to straight biological females. I wouldnt date a bio male or an mtf but here's the odd part. I'm attracted to other ftms as well. I consider myself straight but then i like ftm males too. I cant be bisexual though because i dont like mtfs or bio males. I specifically will only date straight bio women and other ftms. I dont understand how sex would work however because as an ftm it would seem other ftms would want to be male during sex (strap on, phalloplasty etc.) but the problem is i dont feel attracted to a penis. It grosses me out and i only like bio women parts. However another problem is i am the male in sex as well. Very dysphoric and use a reel magic prosthetic to hold me over until phalloplasty. I dont get it. Plz help.

[chloeD33]

You soubd bi to me with a more custom approach. I wouldn't worry about labels that much. But to be warned plenty of ftm have their corrected parts as with plenty of mtf getting.. Modified we will say. Dono if that was useful but don't worry to much! Xoxo

[FTMDiaries]

Hi Bryan, and welcome.

Try not to get hung up on labels. You like what you like, and that's perfectly fine. Humans are by nature a bisexual species, so it's not surprising if you find your preferences aren't strictly black & white. Sexuality is very much an individual thing, and there aren't always easy labels to describe every single aspect of what we're attracted to.

What you're describing is essentially gynephilia with a specific preference for a particular genital configuration. You have said that you're also attracted to FtMs but are concerned about genitalia: this suggests that you may have some bisexual tendencies, but a strong aversion to a penis on a potential partner. Well, that's perfectly fine.

By the way... you might be surprised at what some other FtMs are willing to do in the bedroom. Not everyone is a top, and we don't all experience dysphoria in the same way. And very few FtMs ever have bottom surgery.

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You're asking a perfectly legitimate question. I'm not sure I know the answer, but probably others here will.

I need to caution you about saying you would date a bio woman but not an MtF. While that's your right and you're entitled to your preference, realize that this is a support site for all sorts of trans people and you're posting in an area a lot of MtFs will read. For many, this is a really sore spot. A lot of trans women see themselves as women, full stop, and are strongly triggered when they come across someone who makes distinctions between MtFs and "bio women".

Do you see how that might hit a nerve?

[stephaniec]

I'm a woman, but I'm cool if you didn't want to date me. I'm pretty high maintenance   though.

[FTMax]

Labels are for soup cans. Don't get so caught up on them.

I've dated MTFs and FTMs in the past in varying stages of transition. Currently with a ciswoman. I'm not interested in dating FTMs any longer, as I've realized that I'm not into masculinity. Aside from my own, because wow I am hot.

I'd strongly urge you to communicate with anyone you're interested in that is in the process of transitioning. If you're not interested in penis, you might not be compatible with a lot of FTMs who have undergone or are planning on surgery.

[sparrow]

Yeah, that isn't weird at all.  Most guys are attracted to vaginas and not penises.  So, you sound "normal" to me, but a little more open-minded.  That's a good thing!

[MeganeRei]

Not weird. I'm FtM and I feel the same way pretty much.
It's hard to explain, really. It's more to do with emotional connection than physicality though and I find girls and transboys a lot easier to connect with emotionally than many other types of people.

I've not met any transwomen around my age either, so I can't really say too much about them, but I do like them a lot! I wish I had MtF friends, because I don't have any right now.

(I'm basically just not attracted to cis guys. Probably because I rather be one/am jealous of their bodies)

[BryanB33]

Thanks everyone so much I've always thought i was different and that I was the only ftm to feel this way. I think i molded my mind with stereotypes and I'm honestly ashamed because of how closed minded i was. I didnt mean to hurt anyone's feelings and i do think it is part of relatability. I can relate to other ftms and i guess im attracted personality wise and its interesting how some of you said other ftms arent all about being top and dominant. It was stupid of me to assume that all other ftms think just like me. It was also stupid to assume that I have to fit into a certain sexuality term. Everyone is different and i love all of you guys for your support. I also really considered it and i believe that physically I'm attracted to a female but mentally I'm attracted to anybody. I guess with the physical part (not to offend anyone) i just feel like having sex with someone with a penis would make me feel more dysphoric. Again thank you all soo much i couldnt have asked for more support.