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Sadephanie · August 01, 2015, 01:32:28 AM

Uh. So yeah. Hi. It has been a long time since I've been on some forums of any kind but its been a full year since I've been around people who support me in this type of way and I really hope that I can make a difference in someone's life by supporting them in whatever way needed. I'm a future male to female transgender but I'm not currently sure how I will ever be able to afford it yet but that's okay since I still have a bit of years left to go before I'm living alone or otherwise able to pursue this. I'm only just turned sixteen this past month and I hope that these forums are teen friendly. Regardless, I am here and I am open to anything and if anyone ever needs support of any kind, I am always here to talk and I never judge anyone for anything and I can be trusted. That's a promise, but whether you believe it or not is up to you.

Sorry if that was a long introduction but my girl name will be Sadephanie (combo of Sadie and Stephanie) Kasey Ten, so you can call me Sade for short.

Tessa James · August 01, 2015, 01:42:02 AM

Welcome aboard Sade. Your future sounds promising and the expenses for your transition many be covered by insurance or a national health care program depending on where you live. But you indicated you don't expect to pursue that for years and that can give you time to consider exploring with people here where there is a specific youth section. You sound like a girl with character.

Sadephanie · August 01, 2015, 01:51:54 AM

I originally had the idea that it was much more expensive than it turned out to be and was always nervous about 'what if I still look like a guy??' And those kinds of things but now that I know more I am much more encouraged than I used to be. It's very great I found a site like this so now I can communicate with people like me. Since the two friends I do have in person both have no idea I'm the way I am. Although one friend does know I am bi (technically I am pan though) and supports me in that. Bottom line is, I'm happy to be here! Thanks for saying hello!

Tessa James · August 01, 2015, 02:11:40 AM

Quote from: JackieFox on August 01, 2015, 01:51:54 AM
I originally had the idea that it was much more expensive than it turned out to be and was always nervous about 'what if I still look like a guy??' And those kinds of things but now that I know more I am much more encouraged than I used to be. It's very great I found a site like this so now I can communicate with people like me. Since the two friends I do have in person both have no idea I'm the way I am. Although one friend does know I am bi (technically I am pan though) and supports me in that. Bottom line is, I'm happy to be here! Thanks for saying hello!

I couldn't really explain or tell anyone at your age including myself

I sometimes thought I was an alien too. Like you I did know from experience that I was bi/pan and that has remained a positive part of my life. I didn't like feeling like such a weirdo sissy as a kid but it sure makes sense to me now looking back. Diversity is something to celebrate and cherish as it is, in reality, necessary for our survival. I hope you will feel the respect we all deserve and find your shared ideas are likely to inspire others here. See you around the place

Sadephanie · August 01, 2015, 02:19:26 AM

I came out to my parents as bi once a year and a half ago now and let's just say it didn't end well. Also told them about me being dysphoric but they just kept telling me I wasn't and blah blah blah they don't support me being bi or trans so I'm mostly on my own but now I have this place.

Tessa James · August 01, 2015, 02:37:39 AM

Quote from: JackieFox on August 01, 2015, 02:19:26 AM
I came out to my parents as bi once a year and a half ago now and let's just say it didn't end well. Also told them about me being dysphoric but they just kept telling me I wasn't and blah blah blah they don't support me being bi or trans so I'm mostly on my own but now I have this place.

I am very impressed that you have basically come out to your folks, that's huge! It would be a big surprise if your parents were supportive. It happens more often now with the reach of mass media and celebrities coming out but they may need some time to realize the truth you have bravely shared with them. You did plant a seed for them. I have been around here for years and there are plenty of people who may never fully accept themselves or come out at all. Much of it for us is ignorance, fear and misogyny IMO since too many people devalue women and girls as less than men or boys. I hope you are still in school and I wonder if there is an LGBTQ group there or if you have a trusted adult to share with? A moderator is likely to come by soon with the terms of service welcome for you. Stay cool Sade and good night from the Oregon coast.

V M · August 01, 2015, 06:34:02 AM

Hi Sadephanie

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katrinaw · August 01, 2015, 06:48:10 AM

Big warm welcome to Susan's Sadephanie

Well you are here now and at a place where you can be amongst like minded folks that have been where you have been... I think the biggest fear of many of us is the points you have raised, but to be honest starting young will bring a better outcome than starting older in life, like me... However everyone has insecurities of one type or another, so don't sweat it, just set youself goals and strive forward for them.

Welcome and look forward to seeing you about the forum's....

L Katy

Rachel · August 01, 2015, 08:17:02 AM

Welcome Sade,

We are definitely teen friendly.

Sadephanie · August 01, 2015, 11:29:11 AM

Wow thanks for all of the welcomes. It means a lot to me! Hehe!

About the parents thing though, that makes it incredibly hard to do anything to make myself more girly without them noticing and gives me the fear that when I finally am myself that they won't accept me and then I won't have a family anymore. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this fear though.
Bleh I talk too much lol. Hello all!

Mariah · August 02, 2015, 03:33:05 AM

Hi Sade, welcome to Susan's. Your among friends now. Your not alone. Cost is something almost all of us worry about. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah

Sadephanie · August 02, 2015, 11:11:18 AM

Thank you Mariah.

hugs to you as well.

gennee · August 02, 2015, 04:46:57 PM

A hearty welcome to Susan's, Sade. You have some wonderful things to look forward to. In time you will become the person that you desire to be. In the meantime, take it a day at a time. Cherish every moment that is special to you.

Sadephanie · August 02, 2015, 11:48:52 PM

I will. Thank you.

Laura_7 · August 03, 2015, 04:31:17 AM

Here are some resources that might help:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,192499.msg1716659.html#msg1716659
One is a quite emotional description of an accepting dad... don't know if its too emotional... you might possibly use parts of it...
just take your time...
this is another resource:
hawaii.edu/hivandaids/Some_Considerations_in_Coming_Out_Trans_to_Your_Parents_and_Family.pdf
I personally also like the twin explanation... people will be basically like their male/female twin, with still the same sense of humour etc...

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,188309.msg1674885.html#msg1674885
you might look for counseling, for example at plannedparenthood or a lgbt center...

and well we can't change people... its their decision how they react...
some come around over time...
but watch out for yourself, and you can live a happy life...

wish you luck

*hugs*

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