How to stop cutting self?

[Sadephanie]

Well you can set up a new email account... just use a web interface.

To be honest I don't really want to go behind my parent's backs anymore than I have by being on this site. Despite them being transphobic and basically crapping on us I still respect them as my parents and I love them because that's who they are in my life.

Considering what's been going on with my best friend though. I'm reconsidering not moving to the UK. My plan was to move to England when I either graduated college or when I turned eighteen but my Youth Pastor brought up a new idea: go to college in the UK. If I go to college there, I might want to go to Bristol University but if anyone has other suggestions, let me know (I want to get a degree in something involving computers).

[Laura_7]

To be honest I don't really want to go behind my parent's backs anymore than I have by being on this site. Despite them being transphobic and basically crapping on us I still respect them as my parents and I love them because that's who they are in my life.

Considering what's been going on with my best friend though. I'm reconsidering not moving to the UK. My plan was to move to England when I either graduated college or when I turned eighteen but my Youth Pastor brought up a new idea: go to college in the UK. If I go to college there, I might want to go to Bristol University but if anyone has other suggestions, let me know (I want to get a degree in something involving computers).

Going to college and transitioning there might be a good idea.
The environment ist often more accepting than school.

On the other hand, an early transition is preferrable because the sooner hormones or blockers, the better.
One option for that would be simply to say at home you want counseling, for emotional reasons.
Which is all true.
You might pick someone who has, amongst others, gender on their list.
They could support you in explaining to your parents.
If they are not supportive look for another.

Of course parents want to protect their child.
But if their child has some kind of ailment its legitimate to look for help.
Just don't make up some disease.
You might say its for emotional reasons, or simply ask here for a better wording.

Concerning questions for the UK,
you might contact the mermaids, its a group specifically for transgender youth:
http://mermaidsuk.org.uk
"We offer information, support, friendship and shared experiences."

They can be contacted via mail...
you could ask there for more information and support.

[Sadephanie]

It will be a long time before I can do any of that but thank you.

[Dena]

To be honest I don't really want to go behind my parent's backs anymore than I have by being on this site. Despite them being transphobic and basically crapping on us I still respect them as my parents and I love them because that's who they are in my life.

Considering what's been going on with my best friend though. I'm reconsidering not moving to the UK. My plan was to move to England when I either graduated college or when I turned eighteen but my Youth Pastor brought up a new idea: go to college in the UK. If I go to college there, I might want to go to Bristol University but if anyone has other suggestions, let me know (I want to get a degree in something involving computers).

I understand how you feel about going behind your parents backs but consider your options. You can keep all your are feeling inside you and it will hurt even more. I did this because there was no treatment available to me. It damaged me and took me years to get over most of it. Some of it like the lack of a real social life I still live with today. Susan's isn't a medical web site and can't give you all you need, but talking to others like you is the only treatment available to you at the present. We help you cope so you will have to deal with less damage when you are older. The best solution would be to get you in treatment now.

I am not sure, but I think I heard that OU is gender friendly. England might be an interesting adventure but I suspect the cost would be far higher than an in country or in state university. When you start researching schools make sure you find out what their gender policies are as you may be able to start treatment under the care of the school.

[Sadephanie]

I hope I can end up with a female roommate to be perfectly honest. Guys are kinda icky to me in general. But I have a crush on some..

[Dena]

I hope I can end up with a female roommate to be perfectly honest. Guys are kinda icky to me in general. But I have a crush on some..

The only way I have heard of that happening so far is if you are both open transsexual and in transition. There are reasons, sexual in nature that keep the men and women in separate rooms.

[Sadephanie]

The only way I have heard of that happening so far is if you are both open transsexual and in transition. There are reasons, sexual in nature that keep the men and women in separate rooms.

That's exactly why I fear going to college. I don't want to live with a guy.

[Dena]

That's exactly why I fear going to college. I don't want to live with a guy.

Your only other option would be to live off campus but that didn't work for me because I still had to share a bedroom with my brother. Living of campus would allow you to pick your roommates and share an house or an apartment, The other options is to live and work off campus and attend school part time. If you need to work in order to pay for your schooling then and evening or night time job might work out better and you attend what classes you can in the day. Some jobs like security guard allow you a good deal of time that you could use for study.

[Laura_7]

That's exactly why I fear going to college. I don't want to live with a guy.

Well if its a large uni they might accoodate for trans people...
so you might be together with another trans person...

[Sadephanie]

Your only other option would be to live off campus but that didn't work for me because I still had to share a bedroom with my brother. Living of campus would allow you to pick your roommates and share an house or an apartment, The other options is to live and work off campus and attend school part time. If you need to work in order to pay for your schooling then and evening or night time job might work out better and you attend what classes you can in the day. Some jobs like security guard allow you a good deal of time that you could use for study.

I'm just going to accept the fact I will be forced to live with a guy.

Well if its a large uni they might accoodate for trans people...
so you might be together with another trans person...

My parents will likely make sure I don't end up with such.

[Laura_7]

My parents will likely make sure I don't end up with such.

-think positive
-you can take matters in your own hands and arrange housing then...
keep dreaming... and usually some kind of solution appears 


hugs

[Sadephanie]

-think positive
-you can take matters in your own hands and arrange housing then...
keep dreaming... and usually some kind of solution appears 


hugs

Yeah, but they are funding me I think and I doubt I would be able to support myself with that. I don't know, maybe I could.. I'm not getting my hopes up though..