I Just Think About Callin' It Quits Sometimes. Need Help Finding Therapist.

[Tristyn]

So its been two months upon discovery within myself that I am a transsexual and the steps I need to take to reach the level of transitioning I desire to make me more comfortable in my own body, cause right now there are still times I don't even clean my body or I just wanna rip out my flesh and fly away like those aliens from that old movie Cocoon.

During those two months, I have searched like a bloodhound on the hunt, for gender therapists with zero luck whatsoever....I mean, I have been given the run around so much I feel like a jogging course; everyone just runs all over me without really giving me the help I desire. I even went to a therapist whom I thought would be able to address my GID and dysphoria and all the other stuff like the letter to be able to get hormones and surgery, but she had me come in just to be told she don't handle this stuff. I felt so dumb cause my hopes was high and I bragged to my dad how I found one on my own and was gettin' the ball rollin'....Well, that ball ain't gone nowhere yet...nowhere at all...Even with the help of my current therapist(whom I wanna stop seeing cause all she do is listen and nothin' to really get me motivated to change, even though she do not specialize in any gender-sexual oriented therapies and I think she kinda like a gatekeeper cause she like told me I seem too 'fragile' to transition as a man ).

I have two social workers who try to find and provide me with resources, but there is very little they can do about this....

Please. If anyone here had success with finding a great gender therapist or someone who specializes in treating clients struggling with their gender identity, in the state of Florida(preferably somewhere in Jacksonville cause its close to the town I stay in), please PM me they contact info or you could post a reply here.

Or even if you just know some good ones in Jax, Florida without having seen them yourselves, I would still like to have they contact info.

Thanks!

[FTMax]

I've commented in other threads of yours, but something else to consider: you don't need a gender specific therapist. Any therapist will do, it is just helpful to find someone that has already helped other people with referrals because they already know what to write and who to contact. The therapist you currently have could write a referral for HRT. I'd bring it up with her.

I'm not sure how much leg work social workers are willing/able to do, but I'd ask them if they could provide you with a list of therapists in the city that take your insurance. Then you can go down the list and call and ask if they're familiar with or willing to work with transgender individuals.

Another option would be to contact local LGBTQ groups and see if they can lead you to someone.

[Tristyn]

Hi Max.

Yeah, I know I sound like a broken record. While your advice is always helpful and appreciated, I did find a psychologist who deals with this stuff who can point me in the direction of hormones and surgery.

One thing that you said which sounded very interesting was about my current therapist. I don't think to do even the most obvious things like asking important questions because I am not good at communicating with people. I have such bad social anxiety that I don't articulate very well. I give many people the impression that I am sometimes mentally slow and I am not, its just hard for me to speak without monumental stutters and incoherencies. Sometimes I pause midsentence. Typing is much easier. So I just never even thought to ask if she could write a referral letter, yo. Also because she says she does not specialize in these things. I mean the Christian therapist that said I'm too fragile to be a guy. I suppose it won't matter now that I have a psychologist for this. I just hope she is really good.

[Cindy]

Hi King,

Just an idea, if you have problems expressing yourself verbally, then type it all out and hand it too the psych explaining your anxiety issues and how it interferes with your verbal communication.

I've read many of your posts and you are an articulate young man who is a great guy, who looks after his neighbours etc. So maybe thinking around the problem may help.

BTW Google gender therapist in your area, you may get a clue from that.

[Ms Grace]

I agree with Cindy, write it out if you feel you will have trouble expressing yourself. Whether they read it or you read it out aloud it won't matter.