So let me preface this by saying I have been on hormones for 3 years now.
They've helped a lot, but I also started with a very large male frame/bone structure. I know this cannot be changed, so I wonder if my base is too screwed to make this work.
I rarely get gendered/read as female in public by strangers. I have before, a couple dozen times in the past few years, but it's not consistent at all, nor happens very often. I really don't pass very well at all in real life, outside of photos.
This is how I look now. Looks perfectly fine and female right?
But this is how I looked pre transition, even as just a late teenager. (the one on the right in the grey shirt in the first, the one at the far right with the flower in mouth and striped white shirt in the second) My bone structure was already fully developed, so this is how, even now, what I look like next to an average cis woman,(all the women in these are about average height and build, especially the first one) all the time. Bottom line I'm getting at: My height is not an issue (I'm only 6 feet tall, I see cis women my height enough even if it's not super common) but my general overall size is, and I wonder if this truly impedes on it being possible to blend into society/pass enough as female in the near future if I were to say...get bigger hips or have FFS or stuff like that. I always look noticeably bigger than any other woman in the room, not just slightly. Am I just overall screwed?
However there's also pictures of my current gf and I standing next to each other and we look about the same size. She's also trans but passes and is the same height as me, maybe difference of an inch or two, but has a slightly smaller frame. But in this picture, we look about the same, right? (I'm on the left in the striped shirt)
As well as this old picture from a few years ago, another pre transition one, of me and my at the time gf (who was cis) and, well, I just look taller here, not massive: (I'm in black on the left obviously)
So it's hard to discern what's really going on with my body or how bad or how ok it might actually be.
I'm also wondering if others have a similar big frame while still being thin, and have made this work somehow/able to pass. I transitioned rather young too, so it sucks... (25 years old I started, 28 now) Literally have never seen a cis woman that was my size. (not height) Anyways hoping to get some feedback because I feel really stuck and ->-bleeped-<-ty about my transition and have for over a year now. I have little confidence going out because I always feel so huge. I really just wanna get on with my life and be seen as female the majority of the time, instead of male. I'm not even asking to be stealth, just blend in enough to not be hassled on the street or whatever. (as a trans woman, I know being a woman has that for different reasons which I can accept)
