Peggiann
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply & the helpful & sensible advice your post contained.
I sat down & thought about things & eventually came to the same conclusion that was obvious to you from the start
My timing was atrocious. I saw those shorts & just dived straight in without setting the stage & without considering how my wife would see things. I think she felt that I would go out in public wearing them - somthing that would fill her with horror. I assumed that she would know that I had no intention of doing that,- that she could somehow see straight into my mind & know exactly where I intended to go with rana (when truely I am not sure myself
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You are right I cannot assume anything & as you and kendra suggested will have a discussion about all this when my children have left (my son has left already and God help & protect him, he wants to go to Iraq as soon as his training is complete, my daughter leaves in 6 weeks to do a post graduate degree - I am so very proud of both of them and would NOT want them to be aware of rana.
I will go about things exactly as you have suggested, I will ask for her help & guidance, and fully discuss what role rana will be playing in our lives - she/I has to play some part but I so badly want my wife's support in this that I will accept whatever she is happy with. She has made some oblique comments which has filled my with hope, but as you said I cannot assume anything
Once again thank you so much for your insightful comments Peggiann
regards
rana
