Hi!
So, I'm an ftm transgender, and I came out to my parents roughly five months ago.
I wouldn't say that they've been unsupportive, but they certainly haven't been supportive either. My Dad called me his son once, but that was on the day I came out. Since then it's not even been mentioned, and I'm still very much their daughter. My mum constantly comments on the size of my chest, hips and butt, which obviously makes me really dysphoric. If anybody "mistakes" me for a boy in public, she immediately rushes to correct them. She often calls me "girly" or "woman", which makes me incredibly uncomfortable.
I don't blame them, really; they're in their sixties and were relatively sheltered in terms of upbringing, and there's hardly any mention of trans* issues in the media in England. I'm sure that when I said that I was transgender, they interpreted that as me being a tomboy, even though I explicitly said that I wasn't.
I really want to say something to them and tell them that it's hurting me, but I don't really now how. We're not very close at all, and are very much a "keep all feelings and problems to yourself" family. It was very hard for me to come out to them at all, and I sort of have a 'bury the hatchet' mentality, but equally I feel like I have to say something.
Does anybody have any ideas on how to bring up the topic, and once there, what to say?
Thank you for reading!