Putting off actually talking to my dad...

[MeganeRei]

Long story short, my dad knows that I'm trans because mom's talked to him about it, but I have yet to say anything to him and he hasn't come to me because we're both stubborn and don't know how to make the first move. We have like personalities, which means we clash a bit at times and we both have poor communication with each other due to lack of anything in common.

I live at home with both my parents and my siblings and yeah. Anywayyy, so I suggested during therapy that I should write an email to him, but I don't really know what to say...
I need a few reliable resources(he apparently has just looked at Wikipedia..) to show him, but I have a few I can send him that I sent my mom...

I'm just nervous. I know he's not exactly on the same page and my mom doesn't like being in the middle of both of us, trying to keep the both of us happy and whatever...

I'm not in any danger telling him, it's just a hard thing to do... And he's been under a lot of stress lately with money(like usual) and his mom having health problems, and us needing cars.... but this is something I have to tell him soon because I'm happily moving pretty fast in my transition, and before I know it I'm hopefully gonna be seeing an endocrinologist for bloodwork...

I guess I'm just looking for a bit of reassurance.

[cindianna_jones]

The fact that he already knows helps your case significantly. I'd just send him a brief message like the following:

I know that Mom has told you that I am transgender. Now I'm telling you myself. I do love you very much, Dad. That will never change. If there are any issues between us, it is my hope we can put them behind us. I am always open to a conversation concerning any topic.

With much love, Name

Then when he does want to talk, listen to him. Keep your mouth shut if he insults you. Be a sponge. And finish with, "thanks so much for listening to me, Dad. I love you.

Keep it simple so the message doesn't get lost.

Chin up!
Cindi

[MeganeRei]

I manned up(or whatever you prefer to call it xP ) and sent him an email.

I guess it COULD have been more brief, but I like to be a little thorough and I talk a lot. I explained to him that I've always felt this way and a couple other technical things, and that I'll still be me, I just hope to one day have my body match my mind more, and told him to ask me any questions if he had any and sent him a couple links to read.

SO yeah, it's done and now I just get to wait.

[cindianna_jones]

YAY!!!! Good for you!

Cindi

[MeganeRei]

I'm hoping everything will go well ^^ but I'm glad I sent it...