Did you ever think you weren't trans enough?

[Tamika Olivia]

Maybe for like a few hours, at the very beginning. But I went from completely unaware egg to out to family/friends and on hormones in the space of 3 months. I didn't give myself much time for second thoughts or measuring.

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[KathyLauren]

For most of my life I felt I wasn't trans enough.  I had heard of famous trans women like Christine Jorgensen or Renee Richards.  I knew that I wasn't famous or notorious, nor did I want to be, so I couldn't be trans enough to follow their path.  For all the years and decades of my denial, that was how I thought. 

That's how I talked myself out of doing anything about my dysphoria, or even recognizing it for what it was.  Since I wasn't like them, what I felt couldn't possibly be dysphoria, not that I even knew the word.  Instead, I must just have been some kind of pervert.

What changed my mind was seeing a real live trans woman in person.  I didn't actually meet her, but I was in the hall where she delivered a fascinating lecture.  I thought, wow, this woman isn't a freak.  While she is undoubtedly well-regarded in her field, she isn't famous, and the tabloids have had nothing to say about her.  So a trans person can be a perfectly normal professional person and transition.  HMMMM!?

[LadyGreen]

I over think being trans a bit, i'll spend all day grinning like a loone, loving my life then somehow get it in my head that i might regret transitioning into the happy woman i am rather than the miserable violent "man" that i was.

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[Roll]

I over think being trans a bit, i'll spend all day grinning like a loone, loving my life then somehow get it in my head that i might regret transitioning into the happy woman i am rather than the miserable violent "man" that i was.

I'd wager we all do that to a degree. I have to constantly remind myself "stop being an idiot, you are just forgetting how unhappy you were for so long and how much you wanted this since you were a child". I still have this picture in my head of me having to sheepishly announce to everyone I've come out to "oops, never mind".

[virtualverny]

1. Yes, did you ever think that? That you weren't 'trans enough'? In what way?
For how long? What made you think that? What were some attributes in you that made you feel you weren't trans (enough)?

2. What changed your mind? How and when did you accept yourself & the fact that you were 'trans enough' indeed,  ?

1. YES. As a child, I used to play with girl's toys as well as boy's toys; I would play with princesses and doll houses, but I also had a fascination with dinosaurs and would beg my mother for boy's shirts with dinosaurs and scorpions on them (I wish I still had the scorpion shirt, it was so cool!) My mother told me I couldn't be trans, because I had 'never shown any interest in boyish things prior to coming out'. This wasn't true - there were definitely signs that I was trans as a kid, but even so, the way she put such emphasis on how GIRLY I was as a kid bothered me and made me question myself a lot I've thought about it a lot, and I've realised that it's probably not me at all, and that it's just my mother's way of trying to justify not realising I was trans, or trying to come to terms with the fact that I'm not a daughter but rather a son. Someday she'll come round fully, I'm sure of it

2. The thing that truly helped me accept myself was time. I had to cut off all my hair and bind (message to baby Verny - PUT DOWN THOSE BANDAGES) and change my name and pronouns before I realised that being male made me happy and comfortable. I don't have to fit other's definitions of transgender to be transgender, and everybody's experiences are different, so I should just go with what makes me feel good!!

[PurpleWolf]

1. YES. As a child, I used to play with girl's toys as well as boy's toys; I would play with princesses and doll houses, but I also had a fascination with dinosaurs and would beg my mother for boy's shirts with dinosaurs and scorpions on them (I wish I still had the scorpion shirt, it was so cool!) My mother told me I couldn't be trans, because I had 'never shown any interest in boyish things prior to coming out'. This wasn't true - there were definitely signs that I was trans as a kid, but even so, the way she put such emphasis on how GIRLY I was as a kid bothered me and made me question myself a lot I've thought about it a lot, and I've realised that it's probably not me at all, and that it's just my mother's way of trying to justify not realising I was trans, or trying to come to terms with the fact that I'm not a daughter but rather a son. Someday she'll come round fully, I'm sure of it

2. The thing that truly helped me accept myself was time. I had to cut off all my hair and bind (message to baby Verny - PUT DOWN THOSE BANDAGES) and change my name and pronouns before I realised that being male made me happy and comfortable. I don't have to fit other's definitions of transgender to be transgender, and everybody's experiences are different, so I should just go with what makes me feel good!!

Awesome,  !!!
As for 1) - can relate 100%  !

[Julia1996]

I believe the whole trans enough idea has more to do with the beliefs of CIS people rather than being a trans issue. You're either trans or you're not. There's no kind of trans, sort of trans or a little bit trans. Many CIS people think someone has to have been feminine or masculine at an early age to be trans.  Though they get more publicity trans people who transition very young are rare. CIS people say " well you weren't feminine/masculine as a child so you can't be trans. From the stories I've read here most of the time the person was punished or shammed for expressing their true gender. Because of that I think the whole trans enough idea is ridiculous.

[BT04]

Yeah, back when I thought I was some kinda flavor of genderless/agender/neutrois. Turns out, I wasn't trans enough... because I wasn't that kind of trans! It was several years of wondering to myself if I was doing it "right", or looking ambiguous "enough", or how I should go about trying to talk about neutral pronouns I didn't even feel quite comfortable with using and yadda yadda yadda.

Last month I woke up one day and said the words to myself: "I'm a he, aren't I?" and everything clicked into place. Since then I've known for a fact that I'm "trans enough". Now it's just a matter of trying to get what I need without blowing up my life.

On that note? Gender euphoria is a great rubric for self-gauging and certainly saved me a ton of heartache.

[AquaWhatever]

Tbh no.
I discovered I was trans during the beginning of the more progressive times.
So if I did feminine things it did not really reflect how much of a man I was on the inside.
My brother played with dolls.
My dad has long hair and goes to the salon.
And I had a gay cousin.
Nothing really made me feel less trans. I have however since really transitioning felt like less of a man if i talked alot or hung with the ladies or if I didn't understand sports.. which I don't apart from martial arts and basketball and some soccer.
Nothing serious though.

[Doreen]

Hm... Not "trans enough" good question.

I had to transition.. I was assigned male and had that upbringing.   It wasn't accurate though.  Most of my insides are girl.  My outsides are certainly girl (a few pieces fixed).  I never ever considered myself trans, more intersexed if anything until I knew certain I was. 

In the end though, you do you.  I still have certain 'male' activities and 'female' social interactions & activities.  Just be yourself, whatever that  special something is