Just a rant, nothing more...

[leacobb]

Ok so it has nearly been 5 months since my srs. And things have been going so well.. the other day about 9:30 in the morning i was expecting a package and i was in a bath robe and my PJs with no make up on and the guy said to me " hiya bab. I have a delivery for you, you look good even tho you have just woke up" ok i was a little shocked by this but i felt good too.. i have always hid behind make up while out in public, but on this occasion i started to think maybe i dont need it.. so today i thought i would test that theory and i walked to the shops to get a bottle of wine and from when i left my house all the people i passed, passed comment to me from the shop keeper to the customers.. refering me as a guy "alright mate, sorry sir, amd so on "  im not ashamed to be trans but i dont want strangers questioning my life eather so i responded "thats ok " i felt so sick afterwards..

Will there ever be a happy medium?  Sorry for the rant  xXx

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[RavenL]

Let me share something that happened to me the past two weeks. Last I got got called sir right in my face three times in less then an hour. It was horribly upsetting for me as I got comments earlier in the day that I looked very pretty.

Jump forward a week later and I got called ma'am six times in a row in less then thirty minutes. It even happens to cisfemales as well. I can well understand how upsetting it must be for you as it was for me. But just remember next time you go out you might get called ma'am sometimes life is super weird.

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[cindianna_jones]

Well, most people will never know if you had GRS or not. Think of any other indicators that you might be providing. Your picture looks great so I really doubt that makeup is the only difference.

One of the hardest things for us to do is to do an honest self evaluation. Not only is it hard to discover the cues we give off but it is even more difficult to accept any that we may observe when we find them.

Have you watched a video of yourself walking from different angles? How do you comport yourself? I'd get a friend to make a video for you.

On the other hand... we all have bad days and get this from time to time. Whatever happens, I hope your rant is a release and you are okay.

Cindi

[leacobb]

Thanks Raven and Cindi, for the replys, im ok it was just a way for me to blow of some steam.. I think it is my own fault because i have high expectations regarding myself and when i see flaws i focus on them. So this whole thing regarding these people was one of them moments.. just made me feel a little bit yucky..

It is just nice to have a place where people can understand how you feel. And offer you advice regarding real facts not just (dont worry about it and i think your just reading to much into it) i know people mean well but they come from a false platform so you brush it off... here you dont get that...

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