I'm super nervous posting this because I'm only out to about 7 people in my life. I just want to have a sense of community and someone to talk to other than my genderfluid spouse (although she is perfect and wondeful, don't get me wrong lol). Anyway where to begin.
My name is Ash, I'm a 26 year old DFAB agender person. I use she/her pronouns in public, but I would really like to start using they/them. I'm just afraid of backlash. I've only just recently started going by Ash (which is a shortened version of my given name) and people already have a hard enough time with that :/
I've known I was different for as long as I can remember. I was your typical tomboy growing up. Couldn't keep me out of the mud and dirt for any reason! But I grew up in a very Catholic/strict/binary home. The first time I ever even heard the words gay or lesbian, I had no idea what they meant. I honestly thought they were nationalities! (I was 10 so...) Growing up I knew I hated my chest and I found myself wearing tight bras just to try and make my chest flatter. (If only I had the knowledge that I have now
) Due to my upbringing I honestly had no idea transgender people exisited. I just knew I felt wrong and felt I must have been the only person in the world like this.
I came out as a lesbian in high school and that went over about as well as you'd expect... (thankfully I have a lesbian grandmother so she and my mom were super supportive. Dad on the other hand...). But something still felt off. I wasn't a girl, I knew that much. But I wasn't a boy either. I thought maybe this is just how butch lesbians feel. So I went with that for years. It wasn't until I met my spouse 3 years ago that I was introduced to the concept of non-binary genders. As soon as I heard about Agender, something clicked. And everything fell into place. I finally figured out who I was. And now I'm at the very very beginning stages of transitioning (as in I'm still looking for a therapist). Looking back, I have never felt more sure of myself and more ready for the future
A little bit about me. I love animals. They are my passion. I went to school for Animal Nutritional and Behavioral Sciences. I would love to do field research or work in a zoo, but for now I'm working a pet retailer. Not the most glamorous, but it'll do.
I've been married to my wonderful spouse for just over a year now. I couldn't imagine my life without her. She is my rock when my dysphoria gets at its worst, and the stars that light my way every moment of my life (sappy I know, but i so dearly love her).
We have a miniature zoo at our house (mostly due to me lol)
3 cats - Rohan, Luna, Watson
1 conure - Lizzy
1 Betta - Salazar
1 Axolotl (salamander) - Discord
1 Bearded Dragon - Asami
I'm a huge nerd. I love video games, tv shows, movies, books, anything. Both of my tattoos are after tv shows. Doctor Who, and the 4 elements from Avatar: The Last Airbender and Legend of Korra. My next tattoo is either going to be a bracelet of pokeballs or the transgender symbol with the colors of the agender flag on my wrist.
I would really love to make some friends in the trans community. Thanks so much for taking the time to read this
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