I never know how a man is going to react to my past – and my genitalia

[stephaniec]

I never know how a man is going to react to my past – and my genitalia

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/aug/27/never-know-how-man-react-my-past-and-genitalia

The Guardian/by Zoe Dolan      08/27/2015

"Once I was living as a woman, but before I had surgery, my dreams were bounded by what I came to identify as The Cinderella Syndrome. I could go out and experience magic on the dancefloor with men. But I always dreaded what I sought most: a moment of intimacy. At that point my coach would turn back into a pumpkin and my gown would disappear in an instant."

[stephaniec]

I know the tears, the life of transition.

[Sapphire87]

I really like that analogy fits really well

[cindianna_jones]

Most all of us face it. I am thankful that I did have a few good years during my marriage. But it was a scam from the start as he admitted to me two weeks ago. A boy toy. I kept him until he retired, got me to buy him two top of the line Harleys and then he bolted for a younger cis woman. His union protects his financial interests and now I'll be living on what I made years before I met him.

Still, I remember the good times that I thought were genuine. We did have a lot of fun together for the first twelve years. Then came 12 years of constant escalating abuse. I came to accept it as normal. Clues were scattered everywhere and I could not see. Such is life. I still consider myself lucky I had those first dozen years.

Cindi

[suzifrommd]

Even those of us who have had GRS, but who have unmistakably male characteristics somewhere on their bodies face this. Unfortunately, or fortunately, I've never had someone pursue me the way the author in this article was pursued.

[cindianna_jones]

Even those of us who have had GRS, but who have unmistakably male characteristics somewhere on their bodies face this. Unfortunately, or fortunately, I've never had someone pursue me the way the author in this article was pursued.

When I moved to the Bay Area to work as an engineer in 89, there were two men for every eligible female. I was pursued mercilessly by so many. So many potential partners that I would not tell, so  I would not date, or at least that's what I'd tell them. I'd finally relent and go out for lunch or something and they'd always want to take it further. I couldn't do it. I didn't even know if I was straight or lesbian. I was finally forced into a position where I had to tell and then I made a bad decision that many make. I am not alone in that regard. Sheesh. What a strange world WE live in.

Cindi