Back to School Transitioning

[Haradonia]

I now look like a girl and look completely different. What should I do when going back to college??
College starts in less than a week and surprise I'm mtf. I don't look horrible as a girl, and honestly not that noticeable, if people didn't know me, but they do.

So how do I make the transition going to classes, Etc.
The only people that know are 5 friends I texted and met over the summer, my boyfriend, and my professors who I emailed.
I don't want to be treated special nor awkward. I just wish I could feel just equal even though I know that's not really possible the first two weeks. I go to a somewhat conservative college in a urban cosmopolitan city, so hopefully most of the kids would be understanding.

I want to be brave and just walk into the campus without any cares, which is what I'm planning to do, but it's just scary and I'm worried. I just hate people starring at me and stuff, although I will have to get used to it I guess.
I haven't told my parents yet, but I will try to do it today hopefully if I'm brave enough( I'm with my boyfriend and friends right now not with my parents so I will email them)

My friend advised me to share it on social media, but I honestly don't want to be one of those people who come out or what not, cause I honestly didn't know I wanted to be a girl until a couple months ago and HATE making a big deal out of this. I don't want to be treated special, just equal.
I just hate the idea of coming out, and just want to do it as normally as possible.
Should I change my name on Instagram and such?
Or what should I do? Should I just wait until the first day of school.

I just want to walk in and say yes I'm a girl and be done with it.

[Traci New]

I respect you for having the strength to come out at school.  My suggestion is to start out slowly,  dress in somewhat stealth mode at first then as you fit in wear more and more obvious girly things.  Hope this helps you.  Good luck.

[Haradonia]

I don't wear dresses or skirts, but wear like casual designer chic girl clothes. Like nice jeans or short shorts with a sweater and sneakers. Im just planning to wear short shorts, low top sneakers/ slip ons, and a partly oversized sweater, and a really nice purse I just bought over the summer. Would this be good?

How should i introduce myself to my other friends i haven't told and people who know me??

[januarysunshine]

Wow that's a lot you younger peeps deal with now with social media and all...there was none of that in the 90's when I transitioned.
I can't comment on the Instagram, but for clothes be conservative but not too..jeans or yoga pants and casual looks...whatever the other girls are wearing on campus. I wouldn't show too much skin until you're more comfortable handling male attention.
One of the best things now is there are LGBT groups and lounges on most campuses...when you need a mid-day break..like if things get overwhelming..that's a good place to go.
Good luck and you can totally do this!


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[Haradonia]

Thank you for that comment above!

I mean my legs and arms and body has no muscle so i don't look masculine, and have been wearing shorts all this summer, but I'm sure your right that maybe i should just wear yoga pants or jeans. Im not really slutty though so if i wear short shorts (girl shorts- don't own anymore boy clothes), I would wear a larger sweater or more conservative top.

Also, unfortunately I go to a religious university, so they don't have anything that involves LGBT. And I don't exactly like to be segregated and put into a community and stuff that just only cater to LGBT or any type of group or minority, because i feel like it just doesn't exactly fight for equality but rather feeling special and different, which i don't want to feel like at all. Just want to feel normal no matter what other people think.

[Emileeeee]

I feel like you just need to present as you and not really worry about what they're thinking.

Trying to cater to how other people are going to react is going to make you look like you're not quite sure who you are and kids (including college age) don't respond well to that. Be true to yourself and those that matter will accept your new presentation as normal.

There's no need to shout it from the rooftops in my opinion. You're you and that's the end of it. Why should you have to explain to everybody why you're you? Have you ever seen anybody explain on social media why they decided to get a haircut or wear a certain pair of shoes? Then why should you have to?

[Isabelle]

I think you should delete all your social media accounts and start new ones. Add friends as you meet them. One day you might not want to have a digital trail following you. You're young so your trail won't be that big. As for school, just go at your own pace, don't stress. Send an email to your teachers, maybe talk to whoever your school/ student union lgbt rep is for advice?

[brenda w]

Talk to a gender therapist if you are not already, they are very helpful in guidance. Also lgbt is not some cause for people who want attention or to feel special. They help carve the path for all of us.

[Ara]

I'm not too sure what age range you're at.
College over here is after high school, so around 18 onwards.  Really if you're at college/university then people shouldn't have a problem with you.  I've been out this year at university and although I'm still very similar to the person I was before, I've made new friends as my true self. 

As for high school age (12-18 here) it's more complicated.  Some people manage it okay, it really just requires the cooperation of school administration and teachers.  Classmates are definitely more dangerous in high school though.