Am I making too much out of this...??

[LizK]

Yesterday I had coffee with my brother and the subject turned to the inevitable and I told him I had come out to our eldest brother. We discussed this for awhile among a few other things and I really think he is starting to get his head around it which is great.

This morning my wife and I were discussing this as she was getting ready to go to work and she said something that disturbed me. I was saying to her that I felt it was too easy to become negative about this and that there are going to be benefits and she says " ...you might not have all that crap in your head to deal with and not have to dress" She looked at me and I said nothing to her as I am not sure what to say, she says "if the therapy goes well you might have to dress less"
My alarm bells started to ring even louder and I said to her it sounds to me like you think there is some kind of cure for this

So she says to me you may end up being satisfied with just wearing earrings and nail polish and not the "whole kit and caboodle"  Aussie slang expression(her pet name). I just kind of smiled at her as I really didn't know what to say.   

If you have read any of my other posts about my wife you may recall that we are committed to each other to the end. I have spent a lot of time talking and explain to her how I feel and what the "treatment" is.

So I wonder is this just her going through the process of dealing with this and maybe she didn't express things as she wanted them to sound. I really have been very clear to her about where I think this will finish up because of what that inner soul needs, but also I won't know how much or how little of anything  I like  until I  actually try some different things but the last time I dressed continuously it just took over and I wanted to do it more and more because I felt really good. I even agreed to not to make any changes of significance with out seeing a therapist and I have this sneaking suspicion that she still holds a candle for the idea that someone can "fix" me.

or

Am I completely overthinking this and should just leave it alone....thoughts?   

[Oriah]

Honestly, in my opinion I would say don't just back out , break it off and rum for the the hills

[HoneyStrums]

I dont think its a bad thing, to hope that one needs to do less to feel comfortable.

And, if all you did need to do, was earings and nail polish. wouldnt that be a good thing? It means you would be comfatable as you are and wouldnt need to do some other possibly violence atracting changes.


Ofcourse, it could have a greater significance, but, thinking about it, might only cause you to stress about somthing that didnt need it.

But the real truth of what this means will only be aparant after you see how the therapy goes. worry about it then, when you and your partener can talk about how the therapy is going.