How do you respond to children who ask; "are you a boy or girl?"

[Promethea]

I haven't actually done it, but if a little kid were to ask me "Are you a boy or a girl?" I would be tempted to say "Yes."

<runs>

I keep reading your posts in my mind with Sean Connery's voice. Now I picture him bending over to get his face really close to the child's, as if he was about to let them into something, and then saying "Yesh!".

Well, I identify more to the non-binary side

Wait, isn't non binary supposed to mean there are no sides?   


I only recall being asked this once (by a kid, I've heard it many times from adults), and it was back when I was still presenting androgynously (I identified as intergender for a few years before accepting I was trans).

I asked the kid " What do you think? "
He said "I think you're a little bit of both"
I said "That's cool", he smiled and went back to playing with his cousins.


If this happens again and it needs more explaining I'd like to have something ready. A few days ago someone here, or maybe on another forum, told how they explained some kid what transgender was. I really liked it but I can't remember exactly how it went, I'll try to find it. They knew the parents who in fact participated in the little conversation.

Now, if some parents are offended by either me telling their child I'm a woman/girl, or explaining them simply what being trans means, I'm asking them for their mailing address. When I finally get my SRS I will ask the surgeon that, if there's any unused tissue to be disposed, to put it in a takeout container. Back home I will dry that tissue, turn it into jerky, and mail it to those parents so they can SUCK IT.
Not really, that would be creepy, but that's the spirit.

[lost._.at._.sea]

I don't respond. It's not my job to educate someone else's kids.

Lol good point


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[Tessa James]

I thought of another answer that would work for me.  Children often have a very creative imagination. 

If that same little girl asked me today I might tell her that I am a special fairy girl.

[Oriah]

I always say "honey, I'm a girl that used to be a boy."  They seem to accept that one.  Never once got a follow up question.

[martine]

I have a son who's seven and a daughter who's four so inevitably I get to meet tons of new kids which will invariably ask the question at one point or another. I openly discuss the transgender topic with them and never had any problem.

I'll often explain that we all have a bit of boy and girl within us, that for most body and soul seem to lean more on one side while for a few there appears to be a contradiction. I have the soul of a girl but had the body of a boy and the problem is being fixed. Kids seem to be happy with this and I like to think that they grow learning about gender differences.

Nowadays, often my own kids will do the explaining! And they often add at the end: "I too am a bit of both!" I'm really proud of them!


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[BoringUsername]

If they ask it that way I just say " No " and watch their confusion

[Stevie]

  A few months ago my daughter and were at a small family owned business, there was a young boy there that was very excited to show us a lizard that he had caught. After my daughter and I had talked to him for a few minutes about the lizard he had caught he asked me why I looked like a girl but sounded like a boy, I told him that's just the way my voice is he looked back at me for a second and started talking about the lizard again.

[PastyPrincess]

Yeah, this has happened to me before but before I could turn around and respond the mother answered for me saying that I'm a boy, not a girl. I found it kind of strange and it kind of had me going full tilt for a moment, before i eventually just left.

[Tessa James]

Children are naturally curious and often ask questions impulsively.  They are also our window to the future and I appreciate those of us who will take the time to help them understand how beautifully diverse their world is.

Thank YOU

[noah732]

"No, are you?"


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[Tessa James]

Sure it's old but so am I.  Heard some good responses the other day  "I'm an angel" or "I'm a fairy godmother"

[makipu]

"It doesn't matter what I am" or "I am a person"

[Tessa James]

"It doesn't matter what I am" or "I am a person"

Yes and yes, those are my most frequent responses to adults   Although I also ask, in response to adults "Why does it matter"

[LordKAT]

Children are pretty cool when it comes to accepting diversity. I met one young lady (about age at a parochial school who asked questions but was one of the most accepting and polite young person I have ever met.

[carissajaye]

While I haven't been asked that directly, I've had curious stares. One little girl was starting at me just today at Target while I was shopping for a new ladies watch. My mind immediately turns to Christ as I think about what the child is thinking, and how can I, the adult make it easiest on the child. Honestly all I can do with God's love is smile back for
Galatians 3:28 (There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.)

To me it doesn't matter what mankind things. Only God can see my heart. Not Satan, not my girlfriend, or anyone. I just want to do good by God. At the same time I really want to be a pretty woman someday. I've learned that changing how I feel inside is far more important to me than how I look outside. And if I feel comfy cozy inside, I will express that to anyone. In my view, children should be protected and comfortable, however I express myself to them