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No happily ever after in sight

Started by kittylover, September 15, 2015, 07:32:38 PM

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kittylover

I feel like most trans people just transition and live happily ever after.....but I feel like I'll always be mentally ill and no amount of looking like a guy can change that.i think I have something called complex ptsd ,which is basically when you've been through so much bad stuff that ptsd isn't enough to describe how messed up you are.... I generally feel like I just don't fit in with other trans guys for some reason.... Anyone else feel this way? And is anyone who's transitioned to whatever extent they want to still struggling with mental illness?
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Dena

I haven't had PTSD that I know of but I have had feelings like you describe. I had been in therapy about 4 years and if anything I was getting worst. I then connected with a therapy group and decided to give it a try. The first night of the meeting I was surrounded by other people in transition and I felt like I didn't belong. I felt I didn't have the right to be among people who had accomplished far more than I had. I also felt that I was and impostor. It took me a while to work through this in my head. When I returned for the next meeting, I still hadn't got that feeling out of my head but I was going to try a few more meetings and if they objected to my presence, I would leave without a complaint.

What happened was I started meeting people, talking to them and sharing. I found that we weren't that different after all and soon I was the one helping the newer members adjust to the group.

You will need to make the first move and open a conversation with others. The guys on this site are really helpful and great. You will be surprised as you transition how the powerful feelings you currently have will diminish. I went from suicidal to somebody who is happy all the time. Just be open to the help we offer and the changes that will happen.
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leacobb

Hiya kittylover. Throughout my life i have had to struggle regarding my personal life of being trans and within my social life too.. When i was growing up i didnt fit in with anyone.. I didnt get along with the girls at my school and i didnt fit in with the guys eather. So i was very alone then as i got older i made some friends and it was great. I wasnt alone anymore and i seen then as family. I told them that i was trans and they was ok with it.. A few months after we went on holiday together to Cornwall. It was a camping holiday. When i was sleeping they tied rope around my legs and dragged me all around the field using the car we came in. I was only 16 at the time.. Then we cane back home and i never spoke to them again so i felt alone again and hurt. Then when i started living full time as female. I walked to my brothers house and this car stopped 3 people got out and beat me up. I was in hospital... At this point i was in such a dark place hated myself. Hated being trans. Hated being different.. So i tryed to kill myself.. My mom came downstairs and seen me and stopped me.  I went to see a psychologist then to help me cope with all the pain i went through growing up and with the way i felt about myself.. Now im a new person. I look at myself now and im happy. I have got bew friends people who know me and love me for me. I now have a job where im successful and i look like the woman i was ment to be born as without any problems.. I do still struggle with my confidence but im working on that, but all around im happy..

The point of ne telling you this is that , that was my life and i thought things would never get better because it was bad after bad for years for me. And because i focused on that i never thought anything would get better but believe me when i say it does.. I know it can be hard and times can be tough but hope is there for your future you just need to stay strong..

Good luck kitty love lea x

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Melanie CT

Lea, Dena
Amazing and inspiring stories of your lives.  Thank you for sharing. I also needed this.
Kitty lover
Thank you for posting and my thoughts are with you
Melanie


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