Asking family to call me she?

[Skylar1992]

Hey, it's been about 5 months now since I came out to my family now, well immediate family who I live with about being MTF, they fully accepted it and said it was totally fine. I am at the stage now where being identified as ''he'' isn't a massive issue, but I would feel better if they said she, is that alot to ask or?

[Dierdre Lenore]

I don't think it's a lot, family can be weird and old habits die hard. Just try to be patient with them as this is waaay weirder for them then you.
Hugs,
Dierdre

[SarahSass]

I don't think it's too much to ask for. If they mess up and call you "he" sometimes they'll probably catch themselves and apologize, if not then politely remind them.
As far as people that are close to me I've only come out to my mom. My mom has been suuuuper supportive. And while she still messes up aaallllllll the time, I can tell that she's really trying. It takes time. It's been just as much a transitioning time for her as has been for me.

[KristinaM]

If your coming out was truly "totally fine," then they've probably been patiently waiting for you to ask this of them... Go ahead, and good luck to you on the road ahead.

[Skylar1992]

If your coming out was truly "totally fine," then they've probably been patiently waiting for you to ask this of them... Go ahead, and good luck to you on the road ahead.

Yes it was fine, don't see why I would make that up, but yeah, thanks for the advice guys, ill ask them when they come back from their weekend break, may be awkward at first but it will be nice 

[Ms Grace]

If you're still presenting as male around the house this is likely to be the reason they haven't changed pronouns - people can struggle when what they see doesn't add up to what they think they "should see" when they use pronouns/names.

[KristinaM]

Oh I didn't think you were making it up, but sometimes people say one thing while thinking something else. You have no way of knowing what's actually going on in their heads, only what they tell you. :-) Not trying to stress you out, it's just a human fact.

[Skylar1992]

If you're still presenting as male around the house this is likely to be the reason they haven't changed pronouns - people can struggle when what they see doesn't add up to what they think they "should see" when they use pronouns/names.

Define 'presenting as male' I believe there isn't such a thing, I don't wear dresses and have loads of make up on, but I certainly don't look male either

Oh I didn't think you were making it up, but sometimes people say one thing while thinking something else. You have no way of knowing what's actually going on in their heads, only what they tell you. :-) Not trying to stress you out, it's just a human fact.

Ah okay, yeah I got that impression from my dad, as i said ill ask them back, and don't worry hun, it takes ALOT to stress me out with some of the crap i've been through