Can you be on HRT for over a year while not socially transitioning?

[Deborah]

I'm about nine months on HRT and still presenting male.  But I'm kind of being passive aggressive about it all.  I haven't cut my hair in nearly a year and HRT has had some effects on my body that I don't make any special efforts to hide.  I also quit being guarded about mannerism, walk, seating, and particularly support of LGBT and trans issues.  People make comments about my hair from time to time (joking around) but it hasn't affected my work relationships or ability to effectively function.. 

I should add that I've worked here for 17 years and it's a really conservative  professional environment with predominantly male retired and Active Army.  I am pretty well liked and respected for my expertise and performance and get along with everyone.

As for the future I just leave all options open and take it a day at a time.  The only thing I can say for sure is I can't go back to living completely in the black hole.


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[Melanie ♡]

Hey Melanie, unfortunately, I've already had 6 laser sessions so most of my facial hair is gone.  Facial hair is extremely dysphoric for me. I'm actually looking forward to this, well except gaining weight around the midsection.  Always the most difficult place to take off.

I understand, I felt dysphoric about facial hair even pre-transition since ever, so yeah... What about your hair? Maybe if you cut them in a very masculine way...

[Jessica Merriman]

Only thing about not transitioning after a year of HRT is you will still need a year of RLE for any surgeries, etc. so you are behind for moving on. I feel if you are female and desire to transition then transition. You never know when the effects will kick in so do it now so you have a plan at least if the best happens. Just my opinion though.

[Autumnleaf]

I feel the same way as you Deborah, kind of ambivalent about the whole process and taking it as it.  Although I still present as male and still act male at work, hiding any type of feminine mannerisms and such.  Also, my job has very strict standards of dress so even though I grew out my hair somewhat,  I was told it was too long.   So now have to get a bit of a trim.   

I understand, I felt dysphoric about facial hair even pre-transition since ever, so yeah... What about your hair? Maybe if you cut them in a very masculine way...

That's the plan    and yeah, facial hair sucks but you don't look like you have any at all!

Jessica, I actually don't plan on GCS anytime soon if ever actually.  That's the funny thing, ever since being on HRT, I stopped feeling dysphoric which in turn makes me feel female and not female at the same time.  Not sure exactly how to describe it.  Maybe this will explain my mental state right about now  --->

[Deborah]

That's the funny thing, ever since being on HRT, I stopped feeling dysphoric which in turn makes me feel female and not female at the same time.

I feel a lot like that too.  Maybe it's what everyone else feels like all the time.  A feeling of not being split in half.


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[Deborah]

At first I thought you were joking.  Anyway, saying that anyone over 25 who transitions looks like a professional crossdresser is quite insulting and naive.  I was honestly insulted.

Yeah.  It's hard enough as it is without also adding abuse from in here.


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[Maybebaby56]

Jessica, I actually don't plan on GCS anytime soon if ever actually.  That's the funny thing, ever since being on HRT, I stopped feeling dysphoric which in turn makes me feel female and not female at the same time.  Not sure exactly how to describe it.

I feel a lot like that too.  Maybe it's what everyone else feels like all the time.  A feeling of not being split in half.

I feel the same way.  Since I started HRT my libido has been close to zero, and my dysphoria is gone.  I just feel like... me.  I feel complete.  I still am drawn to and feel comfortable with all things feminine, but I rarely dress anymore.  I just feel content to be who I am.

Terri

[Autumnleaf]

I feel the same way.  Since I started HRT my libido has been close to zero, and my dysphoria is gone.  I just feel like... me.  I feel complete.  I still am drawn to and feel comfortable with all things feminine, but I rarely dress anymore.  I just feel content to be who I am.

Terri

OMG, ok Terri, you put into words exactly how I feel!  I was worried that maybe I wasn't "trans" enough because I wasn't ready or planning on a social transition.  May I ask, are you planning on eventually doing a social transition?

[EmmaMcAllister]

I've been on HRT for 1 year, and I had an orchiectomy in August. I still present as male, even though I look quite different.

[Wynternight]

"Real trans?" You are not the arbiter or gatekeeper of what is or isn't real trans.

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OMG, ok Terri, you put into words exactly how I feel!  I was worried that maybe I wasn't "trans" enough because I wasn't ready or planning on a social transition.  May I ask, are you planning on eventually doing a social transition?

Every real trans will eventually socially transition .
How can we live our authentic selves without socially transitioning?
I stay with my opinion : every real trans will socially transition . Transsexuality and I mean real transsexuality isn't something you can hide all your life . At least that's how I see it . I think that my coming out , socially , at 19 years old was already late . With my 19 I definitely already consider myself a late on set transitioner .
Cause being honest to ourselves we all know real transexuality means socially transitioning .