My grandfather

[KristinaM]

So, I'm in a slightly interesting predicament here. My only living grandparent is my mother's father, and he of course knows nothing yet. I have left it up to my mom as to when or how he should be told, but of course she's still in denial I think and wants to make sure he never finds out.

The physical changes are happening, there's no stopping them. Hair, skin, breasts, body shape, heck even eyebrows, glasses, fingernails and voice. I started my name change process, so that's only a few months out, and I'll be full-time in just 9 weeks. Tentatively scheduling bottom surgery for Feb/Mar 2017 if I can get everything to line up.

How long can I reasonably expect to be able to keep this from him? He's gonna get suspicious at some point and start asking questions, if not to me then to my mom. And when I go for surgery, he's gonna figure out something's up...

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[KristinaM]

So, along similar lines. I was thinking today about coming out to the rest of my family. I have no real need to tell them as it were for acceptance, but I feel they should know. I want to maintain a good rapport with them, not alienate or ostracize myself and run away from them after all.

So, since I have no idea how they'll react and there's really too many of them to come out to individually, and I don't think a letter would be appropriate, and I have no idea how each of them will react so I don't want to do it personally, I figured I would have some Christmas cards made up next year with a picture of me, my wife, and our baby and send that to all of them! That way if they are receptive or have questions they can come to me, or they can keep their opinions to themselves.  How's that sound? Probably won't come out to my grandfather like that, but everyone else? Sure.

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[Devlyn]

I can't answer how long you can keep it from your grandfather. It sounds like you want to tell him?

I don't know about mixing Christmas with coming out. People can have strong feelings about things, this is one of them.

Hugs, Devlyn

[KristinaM]

Easter maybe?   Me and my wife don't celebrate Easter though since we're Pagan. (Or Christmas really)

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[Daisy Jane]

I have to agree with Devlyn. People get weird about holidays. Someone who might grudgingly accept it any other time may act as if "you're trying to ruin Christmas by making it all about you," or whatever other crazy idea pops into their head. I would say do it now or do it after the holidays are over.

[KristinaM]

I just heard through the grapevine that my father and mother think or were told that I've changed my mind about all of this... I have no clue where they'd have heard that.

I still refuse to speak to my father, but my mother and grandfather are coming to the house this weekend to visit. I'll keep things toned down, but we need to discuss this in person... Email and texting aren't cutting it.

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