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[Tuyrar]

Hey, thanks you guys for taking the time to read my post. We are not able to the moment to see any therapists, although I think that it would really help us. My SO seems to be so much more certain where they WANT to end up/be. But there are still the huge questions of IF and when and how.....

Sometimes, I feel that it can be quite hard as my SO is making huge huge decisions that are going to have a huge effect on us, I understand that they are somewhat out of their control as they can't control their dysphoria, but I feel like I seem to have even less and less of a say, or voice,  than ever. It kinda' feels like they go on making huge changes and I am kind of along for the ride for the most part, as I don't want to loose them...... anyway, to be honest, today I don't feel all that great, I am feeling pretty overwhelmed, kinda' like an emotional rollercoaster and I am in the middle of a great big loop!!! So I don't know how much of this post is just an emotional rant :/ hahahaha 



This moment will just be anther story one day – life goes on

[Marienz]

You are doing really well:) I relate 100% to all you are saying:) feel free to PM me:)


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[LizK]

Hey, thanks you guys for taking the time to read my post. We are not able to the moment to see any therapists, although I think that it would really help us. My SO seems to be so much more certain where they WANT to end up/be. But there are still the huge questions of IF and when and how.....

Sometimes, I feel that it can be quite hard as my SO is making huge huge decisions that are going to have a huge effect on us, I understand that they are somewhat out of their control as they can't control their dysphoria, but I feel like I seem to have even less and less of a say, or voice,  than ever. It kinda' feels like they go on making huge changes and I am kind of along for the ride for the most part, as I don't want to loose them...... anyway, to be honest, today I don't feel all that great, I am feeling pretty overwhelmed, kinda' like an emotional rollercoaster and I am in the middle of a great big loop!!! So I don't know how much of this post is just an emotional rant :/ hahahaha 



This moment will just be anther story one day – life goes on

Emotional rants are good for you...well they are for me..depending on when and where I deliver them. Have you asked your spouse if they can slow down a bit and let you catch up? They may not realise you are feeling so bad and unfortunately we that are transitioning tend to be in one hell of a hurry to complete it. Its like once you get to the point of being certain then its "no holds barred"...this unfortunately can lead to us forgetting to include out most important people in our decisions without even realising we are doing it.

Not an excuse but maybe an insight, since you are feeling a bit overwhelmed then you can ask them to slow down? I understand that sometimes even that is not easy. You are doing great and what you are feeling needs to be addressed by them.

Hugs

Sarah T

[Marienz]

Hi
How are things going? X


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