No hope. How to cope?

[lovelessheart]

I'm about 1 week over 3 months post op. I've yet to have any sensation down there . Sometimes I feel somethibg, but then it goes away. Quickly.. then everything is numb . Almost 95 percent of the time things are numb. Also... I don't know how my vagina is suppose to feel inside.. but I don't feel anything but pain when dilating...when I put a finger in there... I don't feel any sensation... frustrating

[Dena]

We heal at different rates. I had swell and numbness for months after surgery because while I heal well, the swelling is slow to leave. My voice surgery was 3 months ago and while I have heard great voices at 6 week, I still am unable to talk more than a few seconds before my voice goes down hill. What you will feel like inside will differ depending on your surgery. My surgery is a good deal different that the procedures done today so anything I tell you will be out of date. I do know that I had nerves reconnecting 1-2 years after surgery and the itching sometimes drove me up the wall. The itches would come from a place that wasn't there any more and I didn't know how to scratch it. Try to relax and give it time as you may be like me and recovery might take a bit longer.

[Jenna Marie]

I don't have much sensation inside either, except at the entrance and the G-spot; I don't know if it's any consolation, but that's normal for cis women (finding that out meant it doesn't bother me much, anyway). I also have one friend who was 100% numb everywhere for over 2 years before sensation started to slowly return. Nerves are weird, and they can take a REALLY long time to come back online - or do so unexpectedly at full power on day! - so, even though I hated hearing this myself, patience is a virtue.

[SorchaC]

My family doctor told me when she saw Chetts work that it will take months and maybe years for everything to heal and work as it should. O know it seems easy for others to say give it time but that really is what it needs. What was done was a massive change for your body and it takes time for it to figure out what's happening.

I hope it all comes online soon for you.

Hugs

Sorcha 

[nicole99]

Sounds like others have experienced the same but it has taken much longer for feeling to return. But yeah you generally won't feel anything inside, except from the surrounding stuff like say your pelvic floor, and your rectum, or prostate. Unless you are feeling firmly around with a couple fingers you probably will feel very little, particularly if the entrance is numb. The nerves of the skin inside is not connected to anything.

Dilating is painful , which is depressing in itself. Its all work work work.

Something to consider too is that post-op depression, for any procedure, is a common occurrence. This might be affecting your outlook. So be gentle with yourself. Take time to recover. 3 months is not long in the scheme of things. Got talk to someone if you need help, and you can also get in contact with your surgeon if you have concerns.

Hugs

[Laura_7]

Talk it all through with your doctor:
-you might use coconut oil to dilate. It has small molecules and might help soften the tissue
-you might ask a gyn for estrogen cream, and use it from time to time to dilate . It can also help soften the tissue.
-after three months you might use probiotic pessaries to help build a healthy flora. Many surgeons say douches are not necessary then.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190515.msg1697107.html#msg1697107

The prostate is still present making for a g/pspot.
This spot is connected via a second neuronal pathway and should be functioning ( and pleasurable  ).
You might try with a finger a few cm inside of your vagina, towards the belly side... in a come hither motion...
or look up gspot stimulation 

As Nicole99 said, talking to a supportive person might be a good idea... or a therapist...

there is also a chat on susans...

and there are helplines...
they also have a chat:
www.glbthotline.org/hotline.html
www.translifeline.org

[doll89]

i took me almost 2 years to reach orgasm and know how to work with it ..

[stephaniec]

I haven't had the surgery yet and I'm not in the medical field. Some times it takes time for the nerves to reconnect. I sliced a chunk out of my thumb when I was a teen when my hand went trough a window I was replacing. They sewed it back on and it remained numb for a number of years. I thought I'd never feel it again. One day years latter I felt it tingle and the nerves went back to normal. It surprised the heck out of me.