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[KalabLee1214]

Hello my name is, well let's just say Kalab. I am 22 and I have identified as a lesbian for the past 8 years. A few months back I began having fantasizing about being a male. I talked to my wife about it, put it in the back of my mind, and moved on. Now I cant shake the thoughts and fantasies. Does this make me FTM. I am really confused and could use some advice, stories, opinions, etc. Please help. (:

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[Mariah]

Hi Kaleb, welcome to susan's. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah

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[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's place. You might be a FTM but there is also the non binary to consider as well. The non binary where you don't want all the things that a FTM would want but you might want a fair number. In the end it will take a gender therapist to help you sort out you feelings but you will be the one who tells the doctor what you are. If you would like to explore this a bit, go to youtube and request "the transition channel". The series will ask the same questions that are ask in therapy and your answers will give you a better idea where you fit in. Feel free to ask any questions you might have and well will attempt to answer them.

[V M]

Hi Kaleb 

Welcome to Susan's    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

[KalabLee1214]

Thanks everyone and hugs back. (: I think I may be non binary because I think eventually I may do T but no surgery. Surgery scares me ALOT. But again thanks for the advice I will try the youtube channel. Xp

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[Rachel]

Welcome to Susan's.

[Dena]

Thanks everyone and hugs back. (: I think I may be non binary because I think eventually I may do T but no surgery. Surgery scares me ALOT. But again thanks for the advice I will try the youtube channel. Xp

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Fear of surgery doesn't make you non binary, the lack of wanting to be 100% male would. You are looking at the face of a person who has been through 7 surgeries so far and the last 3 were for gender related issues. I was terrified every time I went under the knife, but the surgery was important enough for me to over come my fears and avoid saying no. The last surgery was really different and they have new ways to help you overcome your fear and for a first timer, they would be a big help. Take your time to decide but don't rule anything out at this point.

[KalabLee1214]

I know that doesn't make me non binary I'm still trying to figure it out. I just feel that maybe I fit into non binary maybe I don't I just don't know.

[FTMax]

It might. It sounds like you have a lot to consider. I'd suggest finding a therapist that could help you work through your feelings, and maybe involve your wife in those conversations.

[katrinaw]

Welcome to Susan's Kalab

Glad you found us and look forward to seeing you around the site

L Katy