Parents and following there hypothetical naming systems.

[pebbles]

I'm moving out from my parent in a week or so time and she asked me if I wanted my mail forwarding... I said yes. She pointed out she would have to open my mail first to make sure it was mine... As I possess the same intitals as my dad and she needs to check it's not his mail she'd be forwarding.

Anyway I mentioned "I don't mind that, I know I have a silly name" She responded "Hey not what I wanted to call you."
I could have dropped it but my gender confusion has been getting worse in past months and I do try to accurately picture how things would have been if I'd been female from the outset.

I asked her how they gave out mine and my sisters names. When they decided to have kids my parents did discuss names.

My dad wanted
Male: Duncan
Female: Helen

My mum wanted
Male: Matthew
Female: Elanor

They eventually both conceded with
Male: Martin (My current name)
Female: Emma (My younger sisters name)

As I had deduced fair while before I would have certainly been called "Emma" if I had been born a girl. But infact thats my sisters name when she was born ... "When asked what would you have called my sister had she been a boy?" The answer I got was "Matthew" saying they gave it to the opposite parent not wanting to fight about it. (Boy-Named by Mum, Girl-Named by Dad)

I got my answer without having to ask the question. In the instance of 2 girls begin born First would have been called "Emma" Second would have been called "Helen"... I don't actually want to steal my sisters name, As it's hers... So if I ever did change my name I would change it to The unused name of Helen.

Just curious if anyone else has gone to such unusual lengths to simply find an accurate female name for themselfs and if not then how did you choose your own name?

[NickSister]

Helen is a really nice name.
It would be interesting to see if anyone thought of asking their parants to rename them. This seems really logical to me.

As an Androgyne my birth name works really well. I was a Nicholas (which I hated from the start) but it easily can be substituted with Nick, Nic, Nico, Nicky (or the more foxy version Nikki), Nichole, Nicole, Nicola, or Nicolai. I seem to get called all of these depending on who I talk to, as well as Nickson (from dad, or should I say dad dad) and Nickskin.

I prefer to just be Nick as this is what I have always been called and I think it is pretty genderless,  but I like Nicola. If people called me that I would feel good. One of my grandmothers sometimes calls me Nicola or Nichole (though her command of english is not so good).

[Jessie_Heart]

I actually chose my name for its original hebrew meaning of " he sees" my female name was very important to me and I thought it should mean something to me when I found that Jessica meant he sees I thought it was perfect because I always thought that I saw the truth about my true gender when noone else did plus the meaning being he sees instead of she sees it really seemed symbolic since everyone thought I was a he. and in the novel Pollyanna the name was represented as someone who sees the bright side of every situation and even though sometimes I stuggle with it that is really the type of person I try to be! as most things I probably put way too much thought into it!