New Me

[AdenaTG]

Hello Everyone

This is Sandy74 but I am back as Adena because this just sounds exotic and different and that is who and what I am. I did leave that not long ago but with some help from a few people that sent me messages they asked me to come back and so I have come back. I am not going to get so bent out of shape on different things this time around and if something does bother me I will confront those people and not lay down and have them walk all over me.

I decided that I am not going to post a picture because its really nobody's business who I am or what I look like. My time here before I felt self conscious that people wouldn't take me seriously because I didn't have a femme picture but I think being Transgender is much more than just what you look like or what clothes that you wear. I think that you can be Transgender without ever dressing up or wearing a wig or etc and that you can be Transgender in your soul and that is all that matters.

I don't dress FT or even close to PT so I am not going to act like I do. I shop in spurts where I buy lots of stuff and then get rid of it all instead of just hiding it away and keeping it which I am going to start to do.

I work seasonal jobs which prevent me from dressing FT and doing it more than I wish I could and I am okay with that because in all honesty my happiness on the slopes is more important than the real me and where I want to go. Sorry I just have priorities that are more important than dressing right now.

I am not going to feed into the people that think I am never going to think like a woman because that is just BS in my opinion. I will think like a woman when I start the path eventually to becoming a woman and until then I am okay with that.

I am never going to act like I am better than anyone here and if you act that way with me I am just telling you that you will be ignored and you will be dead to me because I don't have time for that crap.

I am happy to be here and I am most likely going to be a troll that only speaks when I feel like I have something to say, I had like 175 posts before so I think everything I had to say was said. Good to be back and this time I am not going to worry about the little things and if I don't want to be here I will just take a break but I am not running away ever again.

[Ms Grace]

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[suzifrommd]

Welcome back, Adena.

I am not going to feed into the people that think I am never going to think like a woman because that is just BS in my opinion. I will think like a woman when I start the path eventually to becoming a woman and until then I am okay with that.

I am never going to act like I am better than anyone here and if you act that way with me I am just telling you that you will be ignored and you will be dead to me because I don't have time for that crap.

No one has a right to question your femininity. To do so is blatantly against the terms of service. This is a support site and the staff works hard to keep it safe. I encourage you to report any unsupportive post/message/chat to moderators.

Reading between the lines of your post, I'm hearing a lot of anger. I'm someone who has, on occasion, let anger eat me up from inside. I hope you find a way to channel it so that it doesn't keep you from being at peace with yourself.

[Mariah]

Suzi is right. If someone isn't treating you right and not respecting you on here by doing anything that is a personal attack including saying things that hurt about an avatar then you need to let us know. We can't fix what we don't know about. A large forums and we don't always notice everything. We want you and everyone else to be safe and feel welcomed on Susan's so when something is wrong please speak up by contacting us. Hugs
Mariah

[Shads]

Hi Adena

It is nice to see you back.  I was a little sad that you felt you didn't belong here and left.  Being TG is who you are on the inside, not what is on the outside.  I have encountered (not on this site) an I am more TG than you attitude.  Quite franky it sucks.  You do not need anyone to validate who you are.  You know who you are and don't need to prove it.

I have always tried to understand what makes others think they are "better than others.  Maybe they think because they look beautiful on the outside, that is all that matters.  It's not.  Looks are not everything.  My Godfather was a really handsome man, but inside he was was rotten to the core.  Walked out on his wife and 3 sons when they are young, wouldn't pay for their education or anything. 

Perhaps these people have a lot of insecurities or have their heads so far up in the clouds and think she sun shines out of their ass.  I actually have 4 cousins like that whom I haven't spoken with in 12 years.

And then there the people that are just mean who get off with hurting others.  No one has that right.  I like to think what goes around, comes around and it's called Karma.

[Devlyn]

Good to see you again, Adena! 

Hugs, Devlyn

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Adena,

A big Aussie welcome back to Susan's family. It's good of you to drop back in and say "Hi". Hope you like it here, and you stay a while longer.

There is a mountain of information, resources and friendship waiting for you here, you just need to jump in start talking and ask any question you like. You know the ropes.

Looking forward to hearing more of your story in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.

Lotsa huggs
Catherine

[Sharon Anne McC]

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Hello, Adena:

Yep, you are who you say you are, I accept you as who you say are, and I extend my friendship to you, no questions asked.

Life is tough enough.  Transition is tough enough; we do it on our own terms and not someone else's.

No picture is okay.  Maybe you'll post an image of something else as many others do.

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[V M]

Hi Adena 

Welcome back to Susan's    Glad to have you here again, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

[Dena]

Just to put my two cents in, what goes for Mariah goes for me. You have a right to be on this site. If you have trouble with somebody, hit the report button or PM a moderator. We try to clean problems up as soon as we know about them and take actions to prevent them from happening again. Don't worry about a false alert because even staff members sometimes incorrectly judge if we should take action.

[Kylie1]

Welcome back Adena! 

I've always felt like a woman inside and think I  have over compensated over the years to show I'm not feminine.  From  motorcycle racing to longrange and tactical shooting, to flight lessons and sports etc.
Now I dress femme under the motorcycle leather and shooting atire. Then go shopping with some gals to learn about makeup and fashion.
     Thrashing down the slopes sounds pretty fun. Just be yourself. Being enigmatic is ok. glad to have you back!

[Cindy]

Well Adena,

You have three of my Mods and a fellow Admin say that you are not only welcome, but loved and will be respected on this Forum.

As the Forum Admin, I will not allow people to discriminate against anyone for their gender status, their sexuality, their race or creed or their appearance. Or anything else for that matter.

You hit the report to Mod Report button and action will swiftly ensue.

Cindy
Forum Admin

[AdenaTG]

Welcome back, Adena.

No one has a right to question your femininity. To do so is blatantly against the terms of service. This is a support site and the staff works hard to keep it safe. I encourage you to report any unsupportive post/message/chat to moderators.

Reading between the lines of your post, I'm hearing a lot of anger. I'm someone who has, on occasion, let anger eat me up from inside. I hope you find a way to channel it so that it doesn't keep you from being at peace with yourself.

You know what is weird is that the only anger I really have is when I get treated differently within the Transgender Community and that is pretty much it and I am just not going to take it anymore and I think that will help me in the long run of being more open about it to the public. My life is very simple in what I do for a living and how I enjoy my life.

I think when I come here I start to feel strange emotions about how I want to be accepted when I shouldn't really care like I look on my life everyday. I don't go out trying to make friends, if I make them cool and if not then that is cool as well. I guess I just got caught up in thinking that I NEEDED to be accepted when in fact I really don't and if that comes off as anger then so be it. I can't change the perception of other people and nor do I really want to because my perception of them isn't going to change after they are rude to me.

I am just coming at this in a different way this time around.

[Shads]

I'll add my two pennyworth (I am Brit and we don't use cents).

I joined another site like this several months before joining this.  The other site doesn't seem to be as friendly as here.  There are less sub forums.  The vibe of that place is just so different from here.  I make a few posts but nothing really noteworthy.

Now here, it's more friendly, the staff are more active and people seem to have more time to listen and help.  I felt that I didn't quite fit in here even though no one said anything to me.  I post a bit more as I enjoy being here and feel like I am small part in of this wonderful community.

Sadly there will always be people that go out of their way to be nasty, upset and/or antagonize others in any walk of life.  Forums are just an easier option for them to hide behind some anonymity.  I feel very safe here though knowing their are people like Cindy, MsGrace, Dena (to name just a few) that won't put up with any kind of b/s.

Once again Adena, I am glad you returned and I look forward to reading more of your posts.

*hugs*

Shads

[kaitylynn]

Hello Adena!  Being one that dresses one way but is lazy about makeup and hair...I can say that I will never judge a persons insides by way of a photo or even IRL meeting.  Just be yourself and the rest should sort itself out.

[AdenaTG]

Thanks for all the welcome's and welcomes back. I have realized that I enjoyed coming here so much more before and now I just don't have that much to contribute and I have been kind of turned off (not a sexual turn off). Winter is coming and I am sure that my life will be busy and I won't be coming here as often as I have in the past. I guess I will contribute when I have something to say.

[cindianna_jones]

Adena,

Please report any abusive remarks to the moderators. Everyone is welcome here. Especially you. Everyone has to make their own decisions about their lives and we want to respect that. And PuhLease... no one cares what avatar you use. If you like a graphic, use that.

People must realize that anyone can view the site and real pictures of ourselves can be used in discriminatory ways. Like jobs.

So, welcome back!

Cindi

[Dena]

When you come here, you don't need to post. Just hang out and read the other peoples post as that is what thousands of guest do every day. One of the things I sometimes do is check the profiles of new members and sometimes find people with very low post counts that have been on the site for years. As long as they are getting what they want out of the site, we have served our purpose. This site has taught me how many people fit under the transgender banner and how they have come to terms with a feeling we all share. We are sisters and brothers under the skin and that's something we must never forget.