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My response to a 'rude' question

Started by Cindy, October 16, 2015, 02:13:42 AM

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Cindy

My Pathology labs are going through a regular NATA inspection to make sure we are compliant with the testing rules etc.

At the start up meeting the list of change in personnel is discussed, particularly for heads of unit. For my section it was listed as no change.

One assessor tried, I think, to be rude. She looked at me and said there is no listed change in the Director yet the previous Director was may old male name. But there has been a change (the surname is the same) as you are now Director, please explain. She had a sick smile on her face.

'There has been no change, I have had a sex change - I didn't realise it was a NATA requirement to seek permission for it?'

My senior scientist tries to stuff her fist down her mouth to stop laughing. My quality manger looks shocked, the assessor goes from a rather red colour to a white colour to a - please earth open up and swallow me look. I flutter my eyelashes.

The assessor avoids me like the plague for the rest of the day.

My labs pass inspection without comment.

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Ms Grace

Quote from: Cindy on October 16, 2015, 02:13:42 AM
She looked at me and said there is no listed change in the Director yet the previous Director was may old male name. But there has been a change (the surname is the same) as you are now Director, please explain. She had a sick smile on her face.

Wow, what a cow. I'd say it was pretty obvious she knew exactly what she was doing.
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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Cindy

Quote from: Ms Grace on October 16, 2015, 02:18:24 AM
Quote from: Cindy on October 16, 2015, 02:13:42 AM
She looked at me and said there is no listed change in the Director yet the previous Director was may old male name. But there has been a change (the surname is the same) as you are now Director, please explain. She had a sick smile on her face.

Wow, what a cow. I'd say it was pretty obvious she knew exactly what she was doing.

Oh yes. She knew. My quality manager wants to put in a formal complaint. I'll probably let him. It was a hurtful and spiteful comment and some transgender people would have got upset.
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Ms Grace

Sounds like you put her in her place though.
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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Jill F

I might have asked her about the quality of the view of the inside of her large intestine.
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Mariah

Bravo for putting her in her place. I agree that she clearly knew what she was up too. Hugs
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Teema

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KarynMcD

You're Awesome!
This and the other day with that consultant.
Awesome!
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Cynobyte

great job:)  people like that should not be in a position to where they can judge, if they cannot do it correctly. 

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Sandy

Out of the darkness, into the light.
Following my bliss.
I am complete...
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Sharon Anne McC

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It seems that assessor was 'clueless' in multiple definitions of that term.  She clearly did not know your work team knew of your circumstance; she was 'sick' in a blind scheme thinking she could embarrass you to your organisation.  You are so fortuneate to be employed where you are accepted.

It seems that if her question was real and honest, then she could have approached either you or your supervisor in private to seek clarification.

Congratulations for putting her in her place.  Her mis-adventure calls for further action by her work superiors.
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1956:  Birth (AMAB)
1974-1985:  Transition (core transition:  1977-1985)
1977:  Enrolled in Stanford University Medical Center's 'Gender Dysphoria Program'
1978:  First transition medical appointment
1978:  Corresponded with Janus Information Facility (Galveston)
1978:  Changed my SSA file to Sharon / female
1979:  First psychological evaluation - passed
1979:  Began ERT (Norinyl, DES, Premarin, estradiol, progesterone)
1980:  Arizona affirmed me legally as Sharon / female
1980:  MVD changed my licence to Sharon / female
1980:  First bank account as Sharon / female
1982:  Inter-sex exploratory:  diagnosed Inter-sex (genetically female)
1983:  Inter-sex corrective surgery
1984:  Full-blown 'male fail' phase
1985:  Transition complete to female full-time forever
2015:  Awakening from self-imposed deep stealth and isolation
2015 - 2016:  Chettawut Clinic - patient companion and revision
Today:  Happy!
Future:  I wanna return to Bangkok with other Thai experience friends

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Sarah82

Well-done Cindy!
A good comeback like that is better than physically slapping the hate off their faces. It shows the hater that the rest of the world is not on their side and they have just outed themselves as a hateful bigot.
Hugs,
Sarah





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Cindy

I have received an email from her abjectly apologising for her behaviour. It was a nice apology as she did not offer any excuse, but that she was unforgivably rude and she will never act in that way again to anyone anywhere ever again.

I replied accepting her apology.
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V M

Oh my... That was so inappropriate, unprofessional and uncalled for, what a wench - I imagine she won't be pulling into port and turning her canons towards you any time soon - Well played
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

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- V M
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stephaniec

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JessicaAlba

Believe me, know your pain! Was working this job where these coworkers would call me 'dude' ,after I had gone full time,daily for express.
Had to fire myself. To bad cause I loved the job and could use the money. Writing a blog about it and probably will also turn my experiences with these folks into a journal. That way those asses at least make me a bit of money for the disgusting time I had to spend with them ;)
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Cindy

Quote from: JessicaAlba on October 17, 2015, 03:11:32 AM
Believe me, know your pain! Was working this job where these coworkers would call me 'dude' ,after I had gone full time,daily for express.
Had to fire myself. To bad cause I loved the job and could use the money. Writing a blog about it and probably will also turn my experiences with these folks into a journal. That way those asses at least make me a bit of money for the disgusting time I had to spend with them ;)

Oh Jessica,
My staff have been totally supportive.  Their transition has been far more profound than mine.  They had to deal with their boss who they thought was a guy. They had never met a transgender woman and then I arrive on a Monday morning in a skirt and blouse.

They have utterly accepted me - but they do not accept people who do not accept me.

I love them.
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Kylie1

Cindy,

That was awesome!! You drove her into the ground like a nail! 
:)
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Dena

Boss, remind me not to get on your bad side.
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Cindy

Quote from: Dena on October 17, 2015, 07:46:43 AM
Boss, remind me not to get on your bad side.

I only have a bad side!

You haven't noticed?
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