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Started by Cindy, October 16, 2015, 02:13:42 AM

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Dena

Quote from: Cindy on October 17, 2015, 09:02:32 AM
I only have a bad side!

You haven't noticed?
You forgave me one mistake already so you can't be all bad.
Of course then again I still have the marks from the chains you used to drag me into the moderator position but they only hurt when I use the keyboard.
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Eva Marie

Cindy - I love your wit and the way you own who you are. You certainly put that person in her place!
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Chrissy5946

Thanks for posting this event..
It's a fear I deal with when presenting female in public, working to gain the confidence to " say/do the right thing" when the need arises.
We cannot change the way some in society "deal" with not normal expectations, I just cannot figure out what is normal?, I haven't met anyone yet who is normal!!


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JessicaAlba

These types of issues are definitely common to deal with for us transpeople. I got bullied away from my last work where I worked for already more than 3 years. I got insulted for dude everyday and couldn't stand it anymore.
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Qrachel

Dear Cindy (and others here):

I was sad to read about the incident and also pleased you were able to be who you are in the face of such behavior.

I was also pleased that the women apologized to you, and you accepted her apology.  That to me is one of the best outcomes that was otherwise possible.  When people can recognize they made a mistake and apologize while accepting responsibility, in this case a public and egregious one, that's a step forward for us all and what may have the most positive impact over time.

The moment must have been uncomfortable in one way or another for all, and out of that moment there may have been a real life changing event . . . at least that's how I see it.  Thank you for being you.

Thanks for sharing,

Rachel
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MugwortPsychonaut

Quote from: Jill F on October 16, 2015, 03:16:41 AM
I might have asked her about the quality of the view of the inside of her large intestine.

Hahaha!  :laugh:
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BirlPower

I'd echo everything Rachel said and add that if she hnours her promise to never behave like that to anyone ever again, then you have made the world a better place. An uncomfortable story with a heartwarming outcome.
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Rachel

Cindy, you are a wonderful and courageous representative of our community. The inspector on the other hand is ratchet. She had an agenda and you called her on it. 
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Lady Smith

Quote from: Eva Marie on October 17, 2015, 09:25:42 AM
Cindy - I love your wit and the way you own who you are. You certainly put that person in her place!

This +1

Well done Cindy  ;D
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Emocia

That was very influential, Cindy. Especially that forgiving part - I usually struggle accepting apologies. I look up to you for that.  :)
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Cindy

Quote from: Emocia on October 20, 2015, 05:20:10 AM
That was very influential, Cindy. Especially that forgiving part - I usually struggle accepting apologies. I look up to you for that.  :)

Accepting an apology takes courage.

Giving a heartfelt apology takes an understanding of humanity. We can never dismiss that.
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