Im going to make a deal with my parents

[fluttershy1617]

They dont want me to start hormones at 18 and I think I should start now because It is important to start HRT young age . My deal is I will start estrogen at 20 but I start Anti-androgens at 18 and also they will pay for my Facial Feminization Surgery.  But I am still not sure If I start Estrogen at 20 instead of 18 Will it change the results??

[Ms Grace]

At 18 years of age you should be legally allowed to make your own choices. If you are on an anti androgen only you probably won't feel that great after a while - no energy and lots of sweating are common side effects without the E to back up you endocrine system. Anyway, it's your choice, just make sure you do it with medical supervision.

[Punzie]

Anti-Androgens basically block testosterone, but they might have a minor feminizing effect especially since you're starting at 18 and are still developmental. If you're on an Anti-Androgen, you shouldn't have too much to worry about in terms of testosterone damage. Waiting two years might be slightly frustrating as you may perhaps be stuck looking androgynous for the most part until starting Estrogen. For the most part, I don't think you have much to worry about starting Estrogen late if you have an Anti-Androgen for now.

FFS is really expensive so if they are willing to pay for it for you, you should probably take their offer. However, I'd recommend being on Estrogen for a while before doing FFS. That way you can see what hormones will do to your face and then see what aspects FFS can improve upon afterwards as opposed to doing FFS and Hormones right at the same time and rushing the process.

[Laura_7]

You could have a look here for some resources:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,197523.msg1756901.html#msg1756901

You might say you want to talk to a gender therapist, to help sort this out.
They can help you along the way and support you.
This would be the usual route...
talking to a gender therapist...
trying easy reversible steps first so you get a feeling if its for you...
like changes to hair and clothing style...
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,194986.msg1737439.html#msg1737439

Often cis people simply cannot relate. Since they feel ok in their bodies it might help explaining that a more female body would feel a bit better to you.

*hugs*

[CarlyMcx]

So this is a deal you are offering to them, not what they are offering to you?  If they do not want you to transition, I doubt that they are going to accept this deal.

What are their objections to you transitioning, if I may ask?  Are they dreaming about grandchildren, and they don't want you on hormones in order to save your reproductive system?

Or are they thinking this is just a "phase" that you are going through?

It seems to me that there needs to be a lot more thought and communication before any kind of "deal" is struck, but that is just me.

[Elis]

IMO it sounds  like your parents think this is a phase, which they'll probably still think when you're 18. It's understandable that you want your parents support, but at 18 I'm sure the T will have done a lot of damage. I know it's hard but I think you should stand up to them. I've lived unhappily for 2 yrs without HRT bcos of how hard it is to come out and wouldn't wish that wasted time on anyone. Maybe look up a gender therapist would be a better deal. Then when the therapist agrees that you are trans your parents may allow you to transition. Good luck