Thanksgiving stress

[Dops]

This upcoming week I have to stay with my more unaccepting grandparents. I know that they do not like the LGBT community, but I have to go, so is there any advice on how to hide stress from grandparents and cousins?( the reason for going is that my grandmother is getting sick and I want her to have good memories but, everyone not in my family is pretty anti LGBT)


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[Laura_7]

-it might be possible to remind people they should be nice to each other.
Saying that if people make snarky remarks...

-in general remaining calm.

-if disputable things come up saying it would be a good thing if people would be nice and loving towards each other...

here are some materials that might help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,197523.msg1756901.html#msg1756901


I'd say just stay calm...
remind people they should be nice to each other... and have a nice time together during the holidays...


and, well, its not the 60s any more... more and more people come around, and being transgender is nobodys fault... neither that of an upbringing nor whatever... so I'd say be who you are... relax... and remind everyone to be nice and peaceful...


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[schwarzwalderkirschtort]

my mom always told me that if someone says something bad to you, don't retaliate aggressively. just say "ok" and don't really show any emotion. it works sometimes for me. if they're being particularly problematic, don't take it too personally. you probably can't cure their ignorance in a single visit, so try to keep that in mind for your own sanity. Also don't forget that you can always just go outside or go to the bathroom, and if they're bothering you a lot just "go for a nap" or hit the hay early.

good luck!

[Laura_7]

my mom always told me that if someone says something bad to you, don't retaliate aggressively. just say "ok" and don't really show any emotion.

Well additionally it might be possible to simply reply thats not nice to say... or something similar...
cause really its not ok, and usually people know that...


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[Dena]

When possible, move the topic of discussion away from sensitive issues and toward subjects everybody enjoys talking about. In my family, it's politic when my sister is around. She has the opposite political view of the rest of the family so if you do talk politics, we only do it when she isn't around.

[schwarzwalderkirschtort]

Well additionally it might be possible to simply reply thats not nice to say... or something similar...
cause really its not ok, and usually people know that...


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not neccessarily, especially if you're in a fight. it depends the tone. by "ok" i mean "ok" as in "are you serious? i won't even give you a full reply" kind of ok. what you've suggested generally won't make them think, and can provoke them further. at least in my experience, i guess