I don't know if I am wasting MY time posting this, but let's try and see.
Most people (I was tempted to write "all") want to get something pleasant and positive for themselves out of their relationships.
When we are forced to confront the issues around our gender identity, there is a phase where we are so overwhelmed with the magnitude of everything involved that it is hard for us to focus on anything else, and it is also hard to avoid bringing the topics that are important to us to the center of each and every conversation and discussion we have. The phase I am talking about can last for years.
To cis people our struggle is incomprehensible, they do not feel the same urgency to discuss these things as we do, they do not feel our pain and fear.
We can tend to cling to them when we need love and support, and it can quickly become too much for them.
When we are insecure and feel depressed, we can appear negative and drain the happiness out of those whom we force ourselves upon. To protect themselves, they start avoiding these situations which are just too much for them.
You want to know how to fix this?
Be positive and always try to give something to the people with whom you are.
Do not try to take from them what you need, but wait until they give it to you freely. Love is given, not taken.
I don't say it is easy, but in my own little mind this is how it works.
