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What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?

Started by AnamethatstartswithE, October 28, 2015, 04:16:49 PM

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Jenna Marie

All I can really say is that Brassard said the vagina would become self-cleaning, and it has. The smell and feel/texture of the vaginal walls is very similar to my wife's (she has more ridges in there, but that's a matter of some personal variation anyway) and stuff definitely does work its way out on its own. Possibly a bit more slowly, since there's also some gentle muscular contractions in cis vaginas that are less common in ours, but I've never had to make a special effort to remove even the lube from dilation. As for shedding dead skin in there, well, I obviously don't know for sure what's happening, but little nasty clumps of dead skin and whatnot came out in the bath/shower for a while immediately post-op and then... stopped. 

The gyno who does my checkups for insurance says it's more or less the same as the menopausal women she examines - somewhat more dry and a bit less elastic than the vagina typical of a younger fertile woman, but within normal range nonetheless. And the swabs my GP has taken suggest that the bacterial balance is also basically normal.
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thegirlinblue

So interesting, I have been thinking about this for a while now and wondered what it would actually feel like.

Did anybody else feel unsure about going through with the surgery?

I know that I want the surgery and the end product is exactly what I want but the thought of walking into a hospital in perfect health and then waking up in enormous amounts of pain is a little scary. Maybe it would be more odd if I wasn't a little worried!
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suzifrommd

Quote from: thegirlinblue on November 08, 2015, 06:24:18 PM
So interesting, I have been thinking about this for a while now and wondered what it would actually feel like.

Did anybody else feel unsure about going through with the surgery?

I know that I want the surgery and the end product is exactly what I want but the thought of walking into a hospital in perfect health and then waking up in enormous amounts of pain is a little scary. Maybe it would be more odd if I wasn't a little worried!

I did feel unsure.

There was very little pain. The only really painful moments was when the surgeon removed the drain. The pain lasted about four seconds and then it was over. Other than that, I was generally comfortable throughout the recovery process. Any pain was more annoying than traumatic.

I have more pain during a half a session of electrolysis than during the entire surgical recovery process.
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Jenna Marie

Thegirlinblue : No, I think that's absolutely normal! It's definitely how I felt; I was as sure as possible that I wanted it, but scared and worried about the recovery period. (For the record, at one point in the first couple days I did actually say "I came in here in excellent health and they broke me." I won't sugar-coat it : that experience you describe is entirely possible. On the other hand, I didn't have enormous amounts of pain...  I'd say it never exceeded the pain when I sprained my ankle, and usually much better b/c I got good painkillers.)
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thegirlinblue

Thanks, that's really nice to know.

I am pretty tough, electrolysis never really bothered me and I broke my ankle once and that was only mildly painful.

I guess the whole going in healthy coming out damaged is the thing that freaks me out the most.
I feel pretty bad for my partner as well as I know that anytime I have had surgery it has been really stressful for her.
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suzifrommd

Quote from: thegirlinblue on November 08, 2015, 07:36:53 PM
I guess the whole going in healthy coming out damaged is the thing that freaks me out the most.

After a couple months I was completely back to normal (except one nagging issue, that was more wishful than problematic.) My sister took care of me for the six weeks that I couldn't carry stuff. She originally balked ("I can't be your nurse") but it turned out that other than carrying the laundry basket and grocery bags, there wasn't much else she had to do for me.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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Aeirs

This is a very good thread it is answering a lot of questions I have had that no-one seems to know how to answer thank you everyone

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Cindi Jones

Quote from: thegirlinblue on November 08, 2015, 06:24:18 PM
So interesting, I have been thinking about this for a while now and wondered what it would actually feel like.

Did anybody else feel unsure about going through with the surgery?

I know that I want the surgery and the end product is exactly what I want but the thought of walking into a hospital in perfect health and then waking up in enormous amounts of pain is a little scary. Maybe it would be more odd if I wasn't a little worried!

When I came out of surgery and felt myself without that awful thing... nothing will ever supplant that moment as the best thing that ever happened to me. Yes there was some pain and discomfort but it was nothing compared to what I went through before that day. I was very sure. I have no regrets about my transition.

Cindi
Author of Squirrel Cage
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BridgetYvonne

Due to high T levels & reactions to my Estrogen, it was determined to castrate me :o. I still have my penis but it did feel a bit weird for awhile. But I got used to it. After 4-6 weeks I was retested & was put back on Estrogen. Around Mar '16 I will have my final operation. :-\ But I have decided to stay w/ my VERY full 34As, no boobjob. I would have had 34Cs like my Mom & Sisters but I started my HRT way past Puberty (24).  :laugh:       
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thegirlinblue

Quote from: Cindi Jones on November 10, 2015, 09:52:22 AM
When I came out of surgery and felt myself without that awful thing... nothing will ever supplant that moment as the best thing that ever happened to me.

Haha, I guess I would have to say that I am not one of those girls, having that thing down there is annoying sure and it doesn't feel like it's the right thing to have but it hasn't ever bothered me that much. Even less so after being on hormones, it's been pretty dormant for a long time now.
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Karen5519

Quote from: Karen5519 on October 30, 2015, 03:53:09 PM
I have been post-op for 13 years now and for a long time everything has felt very natural.  It is far more comfortable especially when wearing a skirt or dress.  As others have said.......the smoothness across the front you get in a pair of jeans is very nice..  But there is a trade off............for a woman there are things that you have to be cognizant about that men do not.

Sitting and how you sit.....especially if you are wearing a skirt!
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OCAnne

'My Music, Much Money, Many Moons'
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Aeirs

I can't wait to be able to wear a skirt with out panties ;)

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Roberta W

I'm also 30 years post-op, and i can barely remember having those appendages down there.  I agree that wearing tight-fitting panties is the most comfortable (with a cotton lining), no testicles or scrotum squeezing past the elastic ... But I also have to say that when it gets hot, it's nice not having sweaty wet things down there as the testicles like to hang lower to stay cool ... If you have them.  The other sensation is that of arousal ... The same muscles that used to work on the outside, for me at least, are now constricting on the inside.  That really feels different.
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Aeirs

No sweat in tuck that sounds phenomenally nice probably one of my least favorite parts next to actually having the thing there to begin with

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Laura_7

Quote from: mfox on October 31, 2015, 11:19:44 AM
Are douches the only way you can exfoliate?

This is one of my bigger worries.  With penile inversion, don't you still have the top layer of shedding, dead skin cells on the epidermis? Instead of a living layer of vaginal mucosa (mucosal epithelium).   I know some people claim the skin becomes mucosa-like, but I don't know if that's really possible.

With estrogen influence, the neovagina can turn into a mucosa.
Here are references:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,149304.msg1682002.html#msg1682002

I wouldn't be too concerned...
dilation and gravity take care of things being expelled...

Many surgeons recommend douches only in the first few weeks. Afterwards a natural flora might be disturbed.


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LizMarie

My OB-GYN was adamant that I NOT douche. Dr. Chet had no opinion and said to ask my OB-GYN, so I don't douche at all. She said with my regular dilations that moisture was good there, no bad smells, and it seemed to be healing fine. That was in September, a few weeks after I got back from Thailand and maybe 6 weeks post op.

As for sensations, I can't remember. I chatted with my therapist about this and she suspects that I've wanted this so long that my brain "self edited" such memories away. She said they're probably there but tucked away in a corner somewhere. I told her those memories can stay in that corner.

What I feel now feels utterly natural and I am so pleased at how clothes fit and I never have to worry about anything popping out. In fact, the one "worry" is cameltoe and I had that happen recently and I and my cisgender girlfriends laughed about it. I told one, "I worked hard for my cameltoe!" We laughed and laughed. :)
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diane 2606

Quote from: Cindi Jones on October 28, 2015, 06:33:37 PM
I do have the equivalent of a wet dream from time to time. Don't know what triggers that. I just wake up feeling in the mood and with a smile. I never remember what the dreams are when that happens.

I always wondered if that happened to someone besides me. I wish it happened more frequently. ;)
"Old age ain't no place for sissies." — Bette Davis
Social expectations are not the boss of me.
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AnonyMs

Quote from: LizMarie on December 08, 2015, 04:45:04 PM
My OB-GYN was adamant that I NOT douche. Dr. Chet had no opinion and said to ask my OB-GYN, so I don't douche at all. She said with my regular dilations that moisture was good there, no bad smells, and it seemed to be healing fine.

Suporn says to do it after dilation to get rid of the lube.
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Laura_7

Quote from: AnonyMs on December 09, 2015, 12:10:02 AM
Suporn says to do it after dilation to get rid of the lube.

Well for how long ? Only a few weeks after srs ?
And with what ? Soft betadine solution with isotonic salt level ?
Concerning lube quite a few people use organic coconut oil after a few weeks..


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