Dear les trans girls who live with your girlfriends or spouses

[Anna33]

Hi there

This conversation topic is kind of aimed at other lesbian transgender girls like me, but everybody is welcome to participate and share your thoughts.


Before I go straight to the point, I wanted to introduce myself a little bit and provide you with some extra context:

I am a lesbian trans woman (though I prefer the term girl, despite of my age I'm still a teen at heart!) I am still going out with the woman I married seven years ago and whom I had been dating for twelve years.

Before I came out to my wife we weren't doing very well. She was getting more frustrated with my lack of interest and drive. I had been super energetic in the past, she knows that I am super assertive and ambitious, but lately I had lost my shine, per se. We got as far as discussing divorce and one night I almost left the house.

The following days were very difficult, and although I had hinted at her that there was something wrong with me, we didn't talk very much about it because I did not know what it was very well.

Now that things are starting to make more sense, that there are no doubts that I suffer a massive case of gender dysphoria and I began my transition, my relationship seems to have improved radically.

I feel more at peace with myself and this is reflected in the way I process things. My attitude has changed for the better and I feel that we are advancing in other things that we had troubles before because i am experiencing an unprecedented zest for life. For the first time in my life I feel fabulous.

Sometimes at night we are just cuddling in our jammies and I just sigh of happiness. She asks me: What's wrong? and I am like 'nothing ' I am just living the dream. <3

Do you have any happy stories and or anecdotes to share with us? please tell <3

Clara

[Dee Marshall]

My Sweetie has been having a hard time adjusting. I'm one of the many here who've heard "I'm not a lesbian!" from their SO. In October we took a trip to Florida culminating in a western Caribbean cruise. Because I haven't updated my passport yet and because she's been trying so hard I agreed to do the cruise basically male, or as male as I can still manage.

It was too hot in EPCOT so I asked her if she minded if I wandered around there in shorts and a sports bra. She was feeling a bit guilty that I had to push her around the place in a wheelchair in the heat so she agreed. When we got to the China Pavilion it began to rain so we decided to do some shopping. Looking around I told her I was looking for something to relieve the total blackness of the outfit I had for "elegant night", a black on black embroidered shirt, black slacks and Doc Marten's. She picked out a beautiful black black and red hairband. It's the first feminine thing she's ever bought me! We've been together for 36 years, married for 34 and I'm ready for another 36. I love her so much!

[Anna33]

awww that's wonderful Dee!! Yes, we are who we are. Big hugs to you and your special one

[KayMc]

It's rocky for my fiancee and I. I'm a "late bloomer" and transgender exploded into my life precipitiously after we'd been dating for over two years - and already engaged.

But we're still sticking with each other. We went to an awesome week long event last week, and had an amazing time. She's taken to calling me her "wife to be", now, which is a good feeling. Even on the rough days when she's not sure she can handle it, I continue to approach our relationship with love, trust, and hope.

[Jenna Marie]

I'm bisexual and so is my wife, but maybe we count? We look like a lesbian couple in public, anyway.

One of the nicest things early on was realizing that she desired me a lot more as a woman - she actually said that she'd never before realized what it was like to look at her spouse and want to drag them off to bed. She likes men OK, but really prefers women. (We've each been each other's one and only, too, so she was never sure how much she'd enjoy being with a woman for real; turns out she loves it!)

[missymarieme]

Clara

My story was interesting I was raised in the 60's and at a young age I new I was different. I would dress in my sisters clothes. And continued in teens whenever I could. After graduating college I entered a male dominated profession. And could only be my female self on weekends. For better then 20 years I hid myself. Due to a disability I had to leave the workforce. Online I meet a bi female who was 27 years younger. We after months of Skype we moved in together. She supported my transition. Being a researcher she discoverer I  had suffered from not only gender identity but Kleinfleder syndrome which adds a extra Y chromosome. This presents more femmine desire. I have fully Transition to a woman. And Vanessa and I married four years ago and are a happy lesbian couple with a 5 y/o son we had prior to the SRS. Vanessa and I have been together for 10 years had our share of relationship trouble. But we are happy and healthy. Good luck in your transition.

With love, caring and understanding, Melissa Marie

[barbie]

At my age, sex does not matter so much, and also my feminine appearance does not hinder any sexual relationship. I have kept a relatively good relationship with my spouse, who likes caring my kids like me. My wife always sees me as a man and a husband, whatever I wear. As I maintain a normal and exemplary family, my colleagues or friends do not oppose so much to my feminine appearance and wearing skirt.

My kids sometimes invite their single-parent classmates to my home, as they are not fed well at their home. My kids already appreciate the importance of having both parents.

barbie~~