Jewelry? FTM&MTF!

[jasperbeauclair]

My boyfriend and I have agreed to get married. I'm an FTM obviously, he's neutral or ambiguous or he just doesn't care. I use male pronouns because he has a penis and doesn't care what pronouns I use.
Well, we are looking for rings... We aren't very traditional of course. I absolutely hate diamonds and any faceted stone. I love clear and white, they're my favourite colours. He loves blue.
We've bought each other these items:



And a raw quartz bracelet that matches my necklace, but it was a custom order from her.

I don't feel feminine in this jewelry because my boyfriend can wear it too. Rings are another story, though. I have small hands. I wear an extra small glove, my knuckles are 3 inches in width, and my wrist is about 5-6 inches in circumference. Also, the rings I like are really feminine or really masculine and I'm not sure what I'm looking for. I like raw gems/crystals, but it seems that even cis-men can't pull off stones right on a engagement/wedding type band. The other option I have is getting a midiring or other female type ring.
I like these but I hate them because they're so feminine...



What are your opinions? What kind of rings or other jewelry do you wear?

[Elijah3291]

cool stones, you know you can make those pendants yourself, go to any metaphysical shop and get a stone and you like and use hemp or twine string to make a "net" and wrap it into a pendant, just google macrame knot.

I wear my engagement band, a pentacle ring, and usually a stone pendant or two, or three lol

I like the rings you posted, but yes they are "feminine" I would probably wear them, but I am effeminate.

my bf and I just went with thin white gold engagement ring bands. We got them from kays and if you pay an extra fee you can have them "re dipped" for life, is for white gold, ive already done it twice, it makes it look brand new!

[Kylo]

I wear a magatama on leather. Clear quartz with gold rutile for personal reasons. Magatamas are perfect because not only do I practice Shinto, but they are unisex. Men look masculine wearing them, women look feminine too.

Not a fan of rings... my job means I'd only be taking them on and off constantly. I may get one in future in silver, but still deciding on what design. It'll be fairly plain though.

Some years ago my grandmother left a pile of jewellery to me, all extremely feminine in 18K gold and very OTT. Before that I'd been quite interested in metal jewellery, but then I realized how ridiculous her stuff looked on me - or on anyone - it really was the sort of jewellery only a certain kind of personality might wear. I now think gold jewellery to be very gaudy unless it's modest in design. She probably isn't very happy wherever she is now, but I gave it away because I honestly could not wear it. Not even the more masculine rings and things among it.

I've since developed a love for simple, tribal type jewellery.

[Peep]

I've got a signet ring and a fairly chunky opal ring that my boyfriend made me. I actually trained as a jeweller and so i might be biased, but i've seen guys pull off stone set rings. you might want to look for heavier bands than the ones you picked though.

You can also get matte finished metals (they might be called 'satinised'), instead of mirror shine, which are easier to clean (i scrub my matte finish silver with a toothbrush, washing up liquid and any MILD abraisive like pumice powder) and slightly more utilitatarian which is usually read as masculine.

I've never liked gold or white diamonds either >.>