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Did your sexuality change with transition?

Started by Rhonda333, November 23, 2015, 08:57:30 AM

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archlord

I used to be very male and to be straight . In my head, it was impossible to imagine having sex or being with a men. However I had uncommon thoughts when I had sex with my ex-gf. It was turning me on thinking I was the one getting penetrated and i would just concentrate on this feeling . Now that I started my transition , I want my surgery as soon as possible but things changed . The mind barrier I had about men-men relation is not here anymore as I consider myself a woman . I sometimes had feeling for some men pre-transition, i was just ignoring it and continued my way. I can say that i am Bisexual now.. i would never have thought of this.
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Jill F

Yes, I currently have zero interest in sex.   Get back to me after the whole shebang gets installed.

In all seriousness I still favor women, but there are most definitely guys out there that look plenty do-able.  Some lucky guys will probably get to be the meat in an amazon samwich* at our house one day.  One at a time though...

(*Term coined by Geezer Butler in line at the grocery store.)
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Valwen

only like 7-8 months on HRT but no changes yet, and I don't really expect any. I have never had really any more than the vaugest attraction to a guy. Then again I have also zero personal experiance with anyone so my opinion on sex is sorta worthless.

Serena
What is a Lie when it's at home? Anyone?
Is it the depressed little voice inside? Whispering in my ear? Telling me to give up?
Well I'm not giving up. Not for that part of me that hates myself. That part wants me to wither and die. not for you. Never for you.  --Loki: Agent of Asgard

Started HRT Febuary 21st 2015
First Time Out As Myself June 8th 2015
Full Time June 24th 2015
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FluffyPunk

Hormones do not effect sexual preference, that's a fact. I believe its simply that as we loose barriers an bicome mor comfortable with arselves, we open up to things we were once closed to.
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Lili

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Ashey

Quote from: FluffyPunk on November 25, 2015, 12:54:37 AM
Hormones do not effect sexual preference, that's a fact. I believe . . .

So which is it, a fact or a belief? Because I am living proof that your 'fact' is wrong... Not long after starting HRT I noticed a most definite change in how I perceived men, after being mostly 'straight' my whole life (male who fancied females). I am most definitely affected by certain male pheromones now when I wasn't previously. This is a result of the hormonal influence, not 'being comfortable' with myself, because I started noticing men more while I was still insecure. Not sure where you're getting your 'facts' from, but don't speak for all of us..
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FluffyPunk

Well Ashley, there ar also folks in these threads that fully believe that theyre getting breast growth when they have been taking spiro alone, an folks whom believe theyre getting breast growth after only 5 days of E. Mi facts come from na fact I have an extensive background in both biology an pharmacology. M sorry if ye thought mi words were offensive, but atleast I wasn't directly rude to anione...
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stephaniec

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Ashey

Quote from: FluffyPunk on November 25, 2015, 07:38:32 AM
Well Ashley, there ar also folks in these threads that fully believe that theyre getting breast growth when they have been taking spiro alone, an folks whom believe theyre getting breast growth after only 5 days of E. Mi facts come from na fact I have an extensive background in both biology an pharmacology. M sorry if ye thought mi words were offensive, but atleast I wasn't directly rude to anione...

Not trying to snap at you but you're almost making it sound like orientation is more a choice than anything and that there isn't a biological and hormonal component to sexual attraction..
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FluffyPunk

Oh not at all Ashley, an I apologise fer coming off strong (iffin I did?). Fer one M from an aggressive culture an M still working on properly communicating with people without offending or being offended. (a life long process). Also I take into account that M an emotional nutter on E (as we all ar) sometimes an I just adjusted levels again. No offense meant, none taken.
Now then no, M not at all saying prefferance is a choice. Hormones do come into play to a degree, like when yer repulsed bi na taste or smell of yer partner though ye love them. A lot of ar behavior in this area is learned, some attraction can bi based on pleasure synapses in yer brain being activated bi yer emotional connection to na other person (strangely this is how one can fall in love with inanimate objects) Yes these reactions release hormones but those ar Dopamine's an whatnot, not T or E. an na rest??? Whom knows, but it's not guided bi hormones though infleuanced.
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sparrow

For me, transition has awakened a "passive" sexuality.  Before, I used to be attracted to feminine people only (including twinks) with a few notable exceptions.  Nowadays, I'm not any more attracted by masculinity than I was before... but the thought of a burly dude taking a liking to me... um... steams my glasses a bit.  Even if he's got body hair!  That's new.
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iKate

Probably but I think it's just the fact that I present better as a woman than as a man. Totally attracted to guys and they do flirt with me, even went on a date or two.
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Roni

My sexuality did not change. I am still very much attracted to masculine, straight men only. However my sexual practices have changed as a result of transition. Without going into too much detail, I will say as a male pre-transition, my member was off limits for anybody, but now I incorporate it more with my activities, as transitioning has altered my mindset and identity to "a female with an extra something," as opposed to just male with a member he did not want to use. I'm still very much completely submissive and you'll never see me on the top side of the bunker, but I've learned to become more comfortable with my genitals since transition.

I guess my parts was never cause of my dysphoria---just my identity and how I presented.
On the wild journey to self-discovery. Free yourself.
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stephaniec

transitioning has let me except my attraction to men a lot more.
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Frae

I think E has made me re examine my sexuality. I've always liked guys but it was always kinda an emotional thing? Like I was turned on by the idea of being with men and the things they can do but really wasn't ever attracted to guys.

I've only been on E for a little over 3 months but I'm defiantly noticing that some guys are freakin' hot. Dunno if that's the E or just me giving myself permission.

On the other hand growing up I've had a number of crushes on girls. Which after a while I passed off as miss-placed envy or me trying to force myself into a typical hetro guy mindset. Now however I'm re-evaluating my feelings and wondering if they where genuine crushes?

So thought I was a straight girl who was forcing herself to be a straight guy but might be bi in retrospect?
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WendyAnn.1969

For me, there was ABSOLUTELY no change at all.

MtF Trans Lesbian all the way through.  Guess I am not straight (attracted to women - by outside appearances) as most thought - after all.  I'm a Lesbian.

I have no bisexual drift either.  I really feel sorry for my wife - she doesn't either.
I'm starting to think this is harder on her than it is on me.  >:(
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Urban Christina

Quote from: warmbody28 on November 24, 2015, 07:45:52 AM
change no. did i become more open about it yes

This. I was always attracted to men and never ever found myself attracted to a woman. But now this butch lesbian friend has me questioning my sexuality.
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