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Started by archlord, November 29, 2015, 05:52:21 PM

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archlord

Enough is enough i wont hide all my life.  I am pretty ,  i am a WOMAN so fk the others who say something else. Since september i am doing makeup and wearing a wig, finally feeling happy about myself BUT i am still forced to hide (i wasnt ready until 2 week ago anyway). I cannot do that anymore i want to be my true-self . My mother had allready seen me and my sister too as a girl however my dad did not.  So today  i went shopping bought a winter coat and some fancy boots in order to go full time in january 1st ( starting the new year correctly!) .  When i arrived home i did a makeup, worn my wig and i went directly to my mother and i asked her how did i look.  She said that i look good but she is not ready for that i am still her son blablalbla. She knows since june i mean....  Then my dad came inside the house, i was still hiding in my chamber and my mother said in a not friendly way "come here and show your father". I did it, he was okay with it however he is STILL asking me to give them time and to show as a men at house when not in my chamber.  I told him that i will go full time in january NO MATTER what. Then he said he will accept it when he will hear a proper diagnosis from a psychologist ( damn.. i am followed since june regiliously and on hormones...). Then they told me that i have no idea about how people are talking about me right now and that is not only a couple person.  SO, tonight, RIGHT NOW, i will not display as a man anymore in the house. If they want to see me or talk to me they just have to come downstair and talk to me but as my true-self, fk that i am not going in boy mode anymore.  They will never see me in boy mode again so the better get used to it.

Why life has to be so complicated.. i mean i am a woman so what is the problem?
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FromAtoZ

Great going ^^

congratulations for standing up for yourself, im sure your mother and father will adjust over time this way they dont have a choise.

It was kinda the same with my mother  she totaly accepted me and what i was but she got a tiny bit scared when i started buying clothes. im not yet dressing or doing make up as i hate wearing wigs :( so im waiting for my natural hair.

good luck ^^ and hopefully your parents will adjust soon.
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Urban Christina

Good on you for standing up for yourself!! I come from the most politically correct family in the world who made a huge deal about it but several years later they backed down after they realized that they couldn't change me. However, some people DO need time for adjusting so try to move out as soon as you can so that way you can show them you're not asking for anything but their acceptance.
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archlord

Quote from: Urban Christina on November 29, 2015, 06:42:24 PM
Good on you for standing up for yourself!! I come from the most politically correct family in the world who made a huge deal about it but several years later they backed down after they realized that they couldn't change me. However, some people DO need time for adjusting so try to move out as soon as you can so that way you can show them you're not asking for anything but their acceptance.

Yes, i would like to move (again) i came back to my parent's house after i broke with my ex.  The main purpose was for money for transition.. if i get my own apartment it will take much longer until i save enough for  FFS/ VFS/ BA .  I asked them for 2 year so i guess we will have to find agreement together to make it pleasant.
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stephaniec

sorry they're making it hard for you
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Ashey

Quote from: archlord on November 29, 2015, 06:46:12 PM
Yes, i would like to move (again) i came back to my parent's house after i broke with my ex.  The main purpose was for money for transition.. if i get my own apartment it will take much longer until i save enough for  FFS/ VFS/ BA .  I asked them for 2 year so i guess we will have to find agreement together to make it pleasant.

Congratulations! Just don't get tunnel-vision about transitioning. Remember your other responsibilities and prioritize accordingly. I say this because I have a friend who is transitioning and she neglected her car payments in favor of doctor's visits, pills, and laser. Of course, months into it her car was repo'd. Just make sure you think things through and don't act too impulsively. Hope it all works out. :)
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Kayla88

It is nice that you made a stand, but I would be careful of biting the hand that feeds you, lol.

I always made sure someone else was in the house if I dressed, so they could answer the door.

I moved out when I went fulltime even though my mother said I could do it there, mostly as a protection thing for my family, I don't mind if I get nasty comments or if I get beaten up compared to if people went after my mother and brother if I was living there.





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Michelle G

Its so nice at the end of the day after work and my lovely spouse says "lets go pick out something cute for you to wear"...don't know what I would do without her :)
Just a "California Girl" trying to enjoy each sunny day
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Dankster

Nice job! This gives me hope as I'm in the same situation at home. My parents and brothers know I'm trans and that I take hormones, but I can't really push it any further, as it's their home. Keep us posted, I'd really like to know how others under similar circumstances are doing it.
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