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MTF dating FTM and transitioning... Help?

Started by FireWolf, November 26, 2015, 01:07:27 AM

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FireWolf

Oh god where do I start. Me (Rachel) am dating my life-long friend Parker. Well, let's start from the beginning. I met him about 4-5 years ago. I've been thinking about transitioning since about seventh grade. That was six years ago. I met Parker the year after (previously known as Emilie). Me and him have been best friends since we met. He was the first person I came out to two years ago. I only later found out he wanted to do the same. So here we are, almost a year together, but still can't transition. Parker was originally unable to because he didn't feel it was right, me on the other hand, I'm stuck with an unsupportive family and a few friends. Even with my friends I can't transition because there's too much judging where I live so I know I'd be picked on. I hear people insulting people like us all the time so I'm forced to leave school before the day's even half over. At least it's my last year there. Me and Parker are on either side of a Canada. He's on the East coast and I'm in Alberta. Our plan is to get a place within the next few months on the East coast and me move there over the summer so he can finish College. Then we still have to wait another two to three years until we can move back to Alberta because medicare doesn't cover any of our transitions and we just don't have eighty-thousand dollars to cover both of our changes, at least Alberta cuts down that price by a landslide. My question is does anyone have any other solutions? The waiting never seems to end and it's bothering both of us to no end :( why can't people just help us transition easier...
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Tristyn

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sparrow

There's crucial progress being made on transgender policies in BC health care, and there are extra resources for people under 25.  HRT is cheap with insurance and surgery is covered, but travel (to Ottawa?) and recovery are not.

Come to Vancouver; the weather is nice and we've got a bit of a community here!  In our public school systems, trans kids have been using the right bathrooms since forever.  And now it's getting even better: http://globalnews.ca/news/1398131/motion-passes-for-genderless-bathrooms-in-vancouver-schools/

I've only had one person pick on me even a little, and he was mad at me before he saw me so I wasn't hurt by his rather sensible choice of picking the most obvious thing to insult about me.  Everybody else treats me decently or at least tolerates me.  Well, some store clerks tend to look everywhere but at me sometimes.
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Tristyn

Quote from: sparrow on November 26, 2015, 01:37:49 AM
I've only had one person pick on me even a little, and he was mad at me before he saw me so I wasn't hurt by his rather sensible choice of picking the most obvious thing to insult about me.

Yeah, he could have at least been original about it. This jerk wasn't about nuthin' anyhow with his useless behind. :P
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FireWolf

Actually? Like, me and my boyfriend are trying to figure which province to move to that will be cheapest for us to transition because we're still so young and it isn't easy for us to make the kind of money they want to transition.
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Tristyn

Yes. Its a shame that there is really not much insurance policies/plans out there that cover the fortune of medical costs in regards to this. Its so much that I may never even get to transition.
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