Second date with a guy ever tonight

[Keri]

Well,
I must say.. this is my second date with the same guy.. I like him.. he does not drink at all so I may be a bit wild for him... but he does not mind if I have a drink.
Its an amazing feeling to be at this point.. I have fun flirting with guys.. but then if you catch one its like oh Crap now what..
I am nervous.. but all I have to do to calm myself is realize that this is what I have always wanted and waited for.. so then I can get myself excited and not be nervous.
There is so much a girl has to do to get ready for a date... holy cow.. I have to work today so I do small things on breaks.. i work from home..
I almost called my therapist for a short session.. I just saw her but this date was a last minute deal... he travels a lot..and is never in my area but he made it happen.
No idea why i did this little ramble other that to try to calm my nerves..
OMG.. I am a woman now.. yikes.
Keri

[Angélique LaCava]

Well that's nice someone can get a second date. I've been on over 40 since starting my transition and I never got a second date.

Edit: maybe my problem is the fact I only go with guys who never fooled wit a transgender and is strictly straight.

[Eva Marie]

I have fun flirting with guys.. but then if you catch one its like oh Crap now what..

Be careful out there Keri and have fun with your catch.

[OCAnne]

Great News but...
Don't want to be Debbie Downer but 22 out of 22 guys I chatted with on Grindr yesterday could not prove they were STD free.  I was nice enough to show them what a Golden Ticket looked like.  Only one guy is going for the ticket.  I tweeted about it: https://twitter.com/AnneEdwardz/status/675384774991605762

Good luck, have fun and be safe!
Anne

[Ashey]

There is so much a girl has to do to get ready for a date...

Oh gosh yes! This is a big reason I haven't been going out with anyone recently. Even for a booty-call I'm just like 'ehh, but I still have to shave my legs...'

Edit: maybe my problem is the fact I only go with guys who never fooled wit a transgender and is strictly straight.

Nope. The problem is likely the men you happen to get with. I've talked to hundreds of straight guys that have been interested. Not all that many have been bi or pan, and regardless most weren't exactly 'inclined' towards trans women. I've been a first for quite a few guys, and they enjoyed their time with me and actually wanted a relationship. Granted, a lot of the guys I've been with or talked to may or may not have been looking for a relationship rather than just sex. It's a mixed bag, but you'll find that with guys whether you're trans or cis. The point is, there are straight men out there who are open minded and willing to have sex with and a relationship with a trans woman, and they're more common than you'd think.

Great News but...
Don't want to be Debbie Downer but 22 out of 22 guys I chatted with on Grindr yesterday could not prove they were STD free.

Oookay... well, that's Grindr... What does that have to do with anything? And we should all try to be safe and use protection regardless.

[Angélique LaCava]

Why u think out of all the guys I've went on a date with none of them wanted a relationship wit me? The ones I happened to have sex with enjoyed it n even tried having sex wit me again but they never wanted a relationship with me.

Edit: if they went with you I'm sure they r inclined to goin with another transgender cause if a guy is ok with it wit 1 pretty one he will be ok wit it if he finds another pretty one. I like to think every guy I've been wit hasn't fooled wit a transgender after me but if they happen to then they won't be touching me ever again.

[Ashey]

Why u think out of all the guys I've went on a date with none of them wanted a relationship wit me? The ones I happened to have sex with enjoyed it n even tried having sex wit me again but they never wanted a relationship with me.

I can't have all the answers here because I don't know you or them, but it could be that the ones you had sex with only wanted sex. Could also be that you aren't far enough in your transition, and they're being shallow. I mean, I was with a totally straight guy for a year before I ended it. He claims he loved me, but he admitted after it was over that he had his doubts and was confused about whether being with me made him gay (he did have a religious upbringing that played a part in that). So that's why the sex stopped months before... As many guys as I've had interested in me, and even though many were straight, it's still not a guarantee of anything. I know I'm attractive and passable, and it plays a part in all this, but sometimes it's not enough and maybe they think they're open-minded enough to try but can't get over their own issues. And this is all on top of the issues many women face with guys that just can't or won't commit or don't want anything more than sex. It really is a mixed bag and it sounds like you've just had some bad luck, or been looking in the wrong places. But there are men out there...

[Angélique LaCava]

I've went on a date wit a guy who actually dated a transgender who didn't hav the surgery but had boobs n since I just started hormones I don't really hav any n he told me he wasn't looking to date n then later on he told me it was cause I wasn't on hormones at the time.so that made me insecure af

Edit: I thought since I look female n hav a female body shape guys would want me but I guess boobs is a huge issue.

[Angélique LaCava]

But if u look at my transition as just to female living wise n not body wise.... I'm pretty far considering I've been living as female for 5 years. So maybe it is just boobs.

[OCAnne]

Edit: I thought since I look female n hav a female body shape guys would want me but I guess boobs is a huge issue.

Yep boobs are huge.  I hang with a girl that has the perfect set...after market install of course.  She gets all the looks.  I have to wait until HRT does a little more in the breast area.  But you wait and see...they'll be just as perky and supple as hers!
Thank you,
Anne

[Ashey]

But if u look at my transition as just to female living wise n not body wise.... I'm pretty far considering I've been living as female for 5 years. So maybe it is just boobs.

Think of it this way, if he doesn't want to date you because of your tits, he isn't worth it anyway.

[Laura_7]

But if u look at my transition as just to female living wise n not body wise.... I'm pretty far considering I've been living as female for 5 years. So maybe it is just boobs.

Its not only boobs... its boobs too but not only them...
you might try to feel girly... its shows in mannerism and might attract...
personality can make up for a lot, and this way you are a better match than if its only appearance...

and, well, there is not only grindr...
on OKCupid and PlentyOfFish might be accepting people, too...


hugs

[Angélique LaCava]

Wat u mean try and feel girly? I am girly. I meet guys all the time who don't even know I'm transgender.

[Laura_7]

Wat u mean try and feel girly? I am girly. I meet guys all the time who don't even know I'm transgender.

There was absolutely no offense meant.

It was meant to say you can make up with personality.
Some people try to exude a feeling they have inside... its difficult to describe.
It shows in your mannerism etc how you feel... so it can attract people, too, as much as boobies 


hugs

[Keri]

Getting ready to dry my hair.. ugh.. so I am going to be short.. but first thanks for all the responses.. So far and forever I plan to be up front about who I am... I am like 56 so cant hide the past.. in fact taking my date to meet my ex and daughter..
So whats cute about him is that he knows I was his first kiss.. and he knows the limits.
He is about my age which is ok but right now I act more like I am in my twenties.. but I am getting there.

Worst part of this is that I had my nails perfect seriously and broke one today.. LOL

As far as CIS men... I have found about 50 percent want to date me the other 50% cant handle it.
And most likely the majority of them are in it for the sex..
So. whats new..
A girl can be in it for her too right?
Love you gals
Keri

[iKate]

The guys I get are kind of strange to me. I don't get guys who simply want to have sex (I'm not ready for that anyways). I get guys who are into intelligent conversation and usually single dads with kids. Weird. One of them is pretty darned relentless in fact. Wants to take me to a dance class. I'm trying hard to say no but...

I mean it's probably nice that I get good guys versus jerks but it makes me wonder if the jerks find me attractive enough to consider me a challenge or worth their time.

[ReDucks]

Be Bold and have fun!

[April_TO]

I dont want to sound too pessimistic. But I am ready to be single forever lol hence I am starting to save some $$$ so I can at least retire fabulously. I am starting to face the fact that why would they settle with me when they can get a cis female.

Anyways, Keri enjoy hugs!

[Ashey]

I am starting to face the fact that why would they settle with me when they can get a cis female.

Nah, I've thought that way before too. But honestly, cis women aren't all that, lol. When it comes down to it, it's all about looks and personality, not just genitals. Many men can be creepy, jerks, and just plain awful. But you have to give a lot of other men credit too, as not all of them are shallow and simplistic. Many can appreciate what you have rather than get caught up over what you lack.

[stephaniec]

when I finally try out my experiment once I get my perfect black lace low cut dress and sit in my favorite bar , I'll let everyone know how the dating scene is for older women.