Bullied by Trans Women + Some Cis People for Not "Passing"

[JenniferLopezgomez]

This is a wonderful article. I have walked the catwalk as a nationwide transgender Pageant contestant, been in national newspaper (Sunday Mirror) photoshoots with my photos and other national and regional publications, being on Internet TV to hundreds of thousands, been on Channel 4 filiming, and I STILL get bullied by trans women and some cis (genetic) people for not passing well enough. This has caused me major depression sometimes but I'm fighting back, eliminating "friends" who disrespect me, accepting feedback that I agree with, taking steps to appear more feminine and beautiful. I am quite beautiful -- and I have these problems -- it must be even more horrible for those who pass less well than I do.

A Day in the Life of an Ordinary Trans Woman

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/lisa-severn/trans-woman-day-in-the-life_b_8838006.html

The Huffington Post/By Lisa Severn 12/22/2015

"Although nearing the end of my own transition and consequently sinking into blessed inconspicuousness, the experience of living an average life whilst transitioning is still a raw one.

Another day in my life as an ordinary mid-transition transgender woman typically began early, with itchy boobs and the remnants of a beard, annoyingly unhindered by oestrogen, to shave away. That early morning mirror is a cruel one and whilst Snow White's stepmum is unworriedly dabbing the anti-wrinkle cream, we're trying to summon the energy to face a day of public scrutiny."

[Vinyl Scratch]

This is a wonderful article. I have walked the catwalk as a nationwide transgender Pageant contestant, been in national newspaper (Sunday Mirror) photoshoots with my photos and other national and regional publications, being on Internet TV to hundreds of thousands, been on Channel 4 filiming, and I STILL get bullied by trans women and some cis (genetic) people for not passing well enough. This has caused me major depression sometimes but I'm fighting back, eliminating "friends" who disrespect me, accepting feedback that I agree with, taking steps to appear more feminine and beautiful. I am quite beautiful -- and I have these problems -- it must be even more horrible for those who pass less well than I do.
http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/lisa-severn/trans-woman-day-in-the-life_b_8838006.html

Kind of confused by this post, the article is good yeah but....

The rest of your post though goes onto say that you are quite beautiful, have been on catwalks, have been on TV etc and you are surprised that you still get bullied, also you say that you only accept feedback you agree with, isn't that a little sort of pointless? Someone could say I have male looking eyebrows, I could disagree then never adjust them (as an example).

Also the part ''it must be even more horrible for those who pass less well than I do.'' seems a bit so so, yes it is worse for people who pass less than other but it is not some competition and most people aren't consumed with just the idea of passing / being beautiful when there is so much more to being what you want to be.

That being said, I hope you keep strong against the people bullying you, and if it is happening on the site make sure to report it!


Edit: Just to clarify, wasn't calling you shallow personally.

[gennee]

Jennifer, as long as you believe that you are beautiful, what others think or say doesn't really matter.
I dislike comments like 'not being trans enough'. In my mind these people who make comments like this are trying to legitimize their
own existence.  

[iKate]

I got privately bullied here by a former member. I have no idea what issue she had.

I just left her alone, wished her all the best and went on my way.

The ONLY thing you can do is hold your head up.

Cis women have never bullied me. Ever. Not even the most transphobic ones. Yes, I do "pass." But I do so mainly because of the aura of confidence I have.

I suppose the one trans woman bullied me because she wanted to stroke her ego. Meh. I am nothing special but I am a person and I think I'm a good person. I'm a mother of 3 and a respected technology professional. I can shoot better than a lot of guys and I have tons of smarts. What's not to like?

[iKate]

Kind of confused by this post, the article is good yeah but....

The rest of your post though goes onto say that you are quite beautiful, have been on catwalks, have been on TV etc and you are surprised that you still get bullied, also you say that you only accept feedback you agree with, isn't that a little sort of pointless? Someone could say I have male looking eyebrows, I could disagree then never adjust them (as an example).

Also the part ''it must be even more horrible for those who pass less well than I do.'' seems a bit so so, yes it is worse for people who pass less than other but it is not some competition and most people aren't consumed with just the idea of passing / being beautiful when there is so much more to being what you want to be.

That being said, I hope you keep strong against the people bullying you, and if it is happening on the site make sure to report it!


Edit: Just to clarify, wasn't calling you shallow personally.

It depends I guess on your definition of bullying.

I am not being specific about anyone here.

Some people think even the slightest criticism is bullying. I think there has to be intent to harm. I believe my view is correct.

We are all sensitive but I think from trans women we are asking for advice that it's not bullying. If they come out of the blue and say stuff that is kind of rude though. I don't criticize people for not passing. If they ask me, I'll give them an opinion (as I have, on this forum and privately).

[Vinyl Scratch]

It depends I guess on your definition of bullying.

I am not being specific about anyone here.

Some people think even the slightest criticism is bullying. I think there has to be intent to harm. I believe my view is correct.

We are all sensitive but I think from trans women we are asking for advice that it's not bullying. If they come out of the blue and say stuff that is kind of rude though. I don't criticize people for not passing. If they ask me, I'll give them an opinion (as I have, on this forum and privately).

My message was directed at the OP, your post doesn't do anything to explain sorry

[Ⓥ]

I got privately bullied here by a former member.

Did the name begin with "Z" perchance?

Sorry heh, I'm being all nosy!