Moving Out . . . Fresh Start . . .

gina_taylor · January 27, 2006, 01:22:31 PM

I got a call from management from my appartment a few days ago, and they told me that the previous tenant has moved out early, so I can move in on the first of February.

So I'll be getting my key and will start to move everything in and I should be able to move the big stuff in by the weekend!

PARTY at my place! All is invited!!!

Gina

Shelley · January 27, 2006, 02:05:29 PM

I'll bring the dip and bickies.

Shelley

molly · January 27, 2006, 08:30:28 PM

Wish I could be there! Have a great time.

Molly

gina_taylor · January 28, 2006, 03:30:44 PM

Hey Molly, I wish that you could be here as well. We would have a great time!

Dip and Bickies sounds great Shelley! "mmmm"

Yesterday, I called FPL (Florida Power and Light) and I got that set up for the first of February and I really lucked out 'cos I didn't have to pay a deposit as I had expected.

Then I called the gas company for the 1st as well and was told that somebody will be around to hook up my gas from 8 - 12. Stupid me :-[ I forgot that I won't get the keys till 4 pm, so I'll have to change that day to the second day of February. The days have moved so fast that I can't believe it!!!

Gina

stephanie_craxford · January 28, 2006, 04:14:43 PM

Yay Gina,

I'm sure that you are going to find the independence wonderful.

Steph

Jillieann Rose · January 28, 2006, 11:11:24 PM

Hi Gina,
That is really great news.

Yes it can be a little hetic getting everything schudule when moving.
Believe it. You will be on your own in a couple of days.
FREEDOM and INDEPENDENCE are upon you. (I'm excited for you)

I'd love to give you a hand moving in.
Here's a house (apartment) warming gift.

A couple of hugs is the best I can do.

Jillieann

gina_taylor · January 31, 2006, 03:25:37 PM

Thanks Steph. I sure am looking forward to it. Unfortunately my mom surprised me over the wekend with a very harsh comment. She told me that she'd like to come up to my appartment to help me fix up my kitchen, but she's hoping that she won't see any 'feminine' things around, or else it will upset her, and then she told me that that will be the only time that she'll ever be coming by to see my appartment.

She then told me that I can come and visit her, but as long as it's in the pressence of her 'son.'

Thanks Jillieann for your house (appartment) warming gift. I accept it with open arms.

Yeah. I know that schedulling things can get a little hectic, but I'm sure that I'll get things straightened out in no time. A little confussion keeps the mind alert.

You know, I wish y'all could be here to help me move in. We coud have a pajama party afterwards and sit around and talk for hours.

Gina

Cassandra · January 31, 2006, 05:00:04 PM

Tommorrow is the big day isn't it? I'll bet you won't sleep a wink. I wish I could be there to help, sounds like it would be a lot of fun, but alas such is life. Have fun.

Cassie

unicorn · January 31, 2006, 05:32:24 PM

Hey Gina! good luck in your new place!

x
Alex

gina_taylor · February 01, 2006, 11:32:41 AM

I am very EXCITED!!!

And when my mom does come over, which I hope that she phones first

, I'll make sure that all my feminine stuff is nicely put away so that I don't cause any contention with her.

But yes, when she's gone, which will be for good

out will come my stuff! Just gotta keep my chin up.

Gina

Cassandra · February 01, 2006, 12:04:51 PM

I'm sure she'll phone first Gina, since she is so adamant about not wanting to see your feminine things.

Cassie

Teri Anne · February 01, 2006, 01:55:26 PM

Gina - Let me add my heartfelt congrats on the start of your new independent life. I was pondering something that, so far, hasn't been expressed in the other posts. It could be that, in your mother's mind, she's laying down these rules because it's her way of loving you and trying to protect you. I know that, when I broke up with my ex (of 21 years), she insisted that any negative comments regarding transsexualism were made out of love for me. I realized that but still hoped for what some of you still have, an accepting spouse. As TS's sometimes say, we don't expect approval but hope for acceptance and tolerance.

My mother was never as vocally negative as your mom, Gina, but there were moments where her inner feelings came out. Years after SRS, I went to see what my mom's old house looked like from the outside (it had been remodeled). My mom had moved away from there but it didn't stop her from asking me, "Did anyone see you?" Translation: Did anyone see me, her son, dressed as a woman? I know she didn't mean to hurt me by that query but it did. I told her, "No," and tried to move on. These hurts are something we just have to live with. Some say, "if it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger."

Maybe.

Teri Anne

Dennis · February 01, 2006, 04:26:46 PM

lol Melissa, I may use that someday.

Dennis

Shelley · February 04, 2006, 03:21:06 AM

Hey Gina,

QuoteShe told me that she'd like to come up to my appartment to help me fix up my kitchen, but she's hoping that she won't see any 'feminine' things around, or else it will upset her,

Watch out for those feminine saucepans. You should have got the male ones! You know the ones with the extra apendage and no idea how to boil milk without it flowing over the top.

So I take it the PJ party is after mom's gone

Shelley

gina_taylor · February 04, 2006, 10:06:32 AM

Thanks Terri Anne for your thoughtful reply. I guess you could be right there about my mother's convern for me in the way that she expresses her love towards me. I know exactly the way that you're going when your mother is going with her comments. I get the same way with mine. It's almost like she's embarassed when I go out, even though I know that I am looking my best. But at least she's never embarrassed me by lossing sight of the certain pronouns when talking.

It's just something that she's having a hard time coming to grips with though, but I really think taht within time she may come around to accepting it.

Off hand I've been really enjoying the wonderful taste of freedom !

Hey Shelley, I'll definatelly will watch out for those feminine saucepans!

And of course the PJ party is after my mom is gone. We'll have fun!!!

Gina

Teri Anne · February 04, 2006, 03:08:21 PM

Gina -
I just remembered something that MIGHT help you with your relationship with your mom.

When I was going to TG meetings at the Gay and Lesbian Center here in L.A., a Phillipine TS spoke of how her dad was unsupportive of her transsexualism. The TS asked her dad, "What do you want most for me in my life?" The dad thought about it and responded, "That you are happy. That is the most important thing." The TS then said, "But dad, my being a woman is what makes me most happy." The dad thought again and said, "Fine. I understand. Maybe you should help your mom and sis in the kitchen." The TS had a tear form in her eye and said, "I will. Thank you." They never again talked of transsexualism and the TS became his daughter from that moment on. Forever.

Teri Anne

sister_shelley · February 06, 2006, 10:51:36 AM

Quote from: gina_taylor on January 09, 2006, 04:23:04 PM
Two weeks ago I went to an affordable living appartment complex and inquired and was told that they'd have an appartment available by the end of March. I told the lady that I'd be back to pick up an application. The following week, I returned to pick up an applictaion and was told that there was an appartment that had just became vacant and that it ould be available for the first of March. I thought that was great! Today I returned to submit the application and was told that another appartment had become vacant and that it would be available for the end of this month, so it looks like I'll be moving out from my parents by this month instead of having to wait until the end of February!

Yesterday, my mom surprised me with a letter that I had to sign which outlined her rules that since I was moving out, which meant that I'd have more freedom to be my True Self, that when I came over to her house for whatever reason, she didn't want to see my femine self, nor did she want to see any traces of her at work either; at least she's allowing me to remain working at her place of employment, as long as I follow the rules. So I signed her letter and I agreed to her terms. I just couldn't belive it though. The best time of my life and she has to rain on my parade with crap like this.

Gina

She can say what she wants about your behavior at home.
HOWEVER at work?
Call the lawyers! We got a live one here!

Posted at: February 06, 2006, 10:49:20 AM

Quote from: melissa_girl on January 09, 2006, 05:37:12 PM
Since the letter is already signed Stephanie, there isn't much she can do about that. However, if she were to get another job and stop visiting her mom's house while her mom holds that letter over her head, then Gina would be the one in control.

By signing that letter, Gina, you have eliminated your opton of transitioning at that job and in order to continue, you will need to be looking for another job. Hopefully your mom will be understanding about that and continue to employ you while you look for another one. It sounds like you are on your way to being independant. I think this is a necessary prerequisite to transition for you. Once you are moved out, you can find another job. Then, your transition can begin.

I wish you luck with it.

Melissa

I don't think the letter matters.
he should get legal counsel.

beth · February 06, 2006, 03:09:26 PM

He? Gina is a she. I agree that the letter means nothing bad for Gina, just bad for her mother if it ever did get to the point of litigation.

beth

gina_taylor · February 06, 2006, 06:38:14 PM

Teri- Thank you for that thought, but I've tried talking with my mom but it's like talking to a wall. She won't have anything to do with it. She won't see it my way for my happiness. Her comment towards that is for my happiness, they (my immediate family) must suffer.

Thanks for defending me Beth, but as for that letter, I really don't think it would stand to well. As long as I watch myself at work, I don't think that there will be any problems.

Gina

Teri Anne · February 07, 2006, 04:02:33 AM

Good point, Melissa! Gina's happiness should come first.

Teri Anne

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