To what degree has your social life changed since start of transition.

[Swayallday]

Girls trust me more and talk with me more often 

I was already last in male social hierarchy but it seems i've dropped a few more notches even more.

[stephaniec]

A group of us have been going out for drinks two nights a week, we've been doing this for many years. We always end up with the guys on one corner of the bar and the girls on the other corner. I never really talked very much, I guess I was just kind of there.

After coming out to them all a couple of months ago I've mostly moved over to the girls corner.
I don't know if its the hormones or a combination of that and finally getting my "secret" out in the open, but I talk now. Sometimes they can't shut me up! I'm definitely having a lot more fun and really look forward to our nights out. My friends say they have seen a good change in me.

I can't wait to start appearing as Charley.

that's good

[in.Chains]

Since transitioning, my social life has become infinitely better. I have more friends, especially closer, more sincere ones, and I find myself going out and doing things far more often. It's fantastic!

[stephaniec]

Since transitioning, my social life has become infinitely better. I have more friends, especially closer, more sincere ones, and I find myself going out and doing things far more often. It's fantastic!

double good

[Ms Grace]

I can make social overtures toward women I want to be friends with and not sound like I'm asking to have an affair.

I totally know what you mean here. It was so hard to get close on a social level without it seeming like I was hot for them or trying it on or something. I was able to form reasonable social and platonic friendships but since I've transitioned I've found the bonds with my female friends has gotten stronger - definitely wouldn't have happened if I was still a "guy".

[Ashey]

I totally know what you mean here. It was so hard to get close on a social level without it seeming like I was hot for them or trying it on or something. I was able to form reasonable social and platonic friendships but since I've transitioned I've found the bonds with my female friends has gotten stronger - definitely wouldn't have happened if I was still a "guy".

Heh... this is quite true. Socializing with other women is totally different now. Like, I could see someone looking at me and leaving their kids with me for a moment. It's a bit strange, though nice that I can watch kids out in public without it being weird or creepy. The other day I was in a restaurant and playing with a baby sitting near me. Nothing wrong with it and her parents just smiled and encouraged it. As a guy? It'd just be weird and awkard at best... An unfair double-standard for sure, but I'm glad I'm on the other side of it now. Other women also talk to me easily, though that can have it's drawbacks. I don't need to hear some lady I don't know going on about her life story while I'm ordering a coffee, lol. Complimenting each other randomly is nice though. However, there's the other side of it all, like when I WANT to come across as flirty! All like 'Hey you're lookin' goood.. homo intended..' My stupid bisexual scale has been shifting weight towards women lately, and it's frustrating in a lot of ways, but especially because I don't know how to lesbian or how to pick up ladies. Nothing other gay women don't face, but I'm not really used to it yet and don't know what to do..

[Morganna]

I myself didn't find many differences now that I am open about being trans than when I was secretive about it. My friends who are all straight males keep saying they always saw me as some kind of angry, androgynous folk with a quick wit and a general unwillingness to socialize outside my small circle of friendships. Family wise, they all act the same about me, might be because I have never been one to let anyone make me feel like dung, but I can sense some uneasiness from some relatives. Anyways... it's good, not radically different, but good.

[stephaniec]

I have  a whole lot better outlook on my future encounters with people than I did pre HRT.

[Deborah]

I had little social life before and little social life now and that's just fine with me.  It matches my personality type.


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[allisonsteph]

I am much less social than I was before transition, but the connections are more genuine. Before transitioning I was essentially a politician. I worked with the chamber of commerce and lobbyists. I was on a first name basis with mayors, city councilors, and a couple of congressman. I hated every single minute of it. I'm much happier with a much smaller social circle.

[Kylo]

Not much at all. I'm not the most sociable person, I don't need a lot of social contact all the time, but among friends, nothing's really changed. I think it would be very strange if I began acting differently toward all my friends due to their or my gender, like I was putting on an act. Although I have basically treated all people as the same/equal in my friendships, male or female, and I don't intend to change that.

But since I started the journey, I do feel less like socialising. I feel as though I might be more ready to do it when I'm done, but that is some time off. Maybe it's just that I still feel like I'm in pre-life mode, and when I'm done I'll be in life mode and able to go out and do things without constant discomfort or awkwardness. Maybe I'll be more social then.

[lostcharlie]

guess I need to get a social life....... I'll report back here in a couple of years.....

[AnnieX]

Hi Everyone. I am new to the Susan's. Thought I might share my pre and post transition social life experience here as well. 
Its been pretty much the same for me. I went out with my friends before transitioning and I am doing the same now. Only change for me was the first year in my tradition. After I came out to my friend I was little bit nervous to meet my friends in a large group. But as time passes by I was became more comfortable in my own skin and my friends became more comfortable reacting to me as a girl. at the end everything worked out well and my social  remained the same or may be little bit improved after I transition. I think because finally I am being who I am and people see me as who I am inside