Telling my sister

[preston j sannicolas]

So I want to tell my little sister that I'm trans .I want to do this because I feel like her not knowing is holding me back.problem is I don't know where to start she is 9 years old and a major Tom boy.I just don't know how to tell her or explain to her about me being a girl.

[Dena]

Younger children tend not to questions the details very much so you want to keep it simple and answer any questions they should come up with. I would explain that you are a girl on the inside and a boy on the outside. You are going to start changing the outside to match the inside and she will have a sister instead of a brother. This will not change the person that you are other than it will make you happier.

You may also want your parent present so they can confirm that you are telling the truth as she may think you are kidding.

[preston j sannicolas]

Ok I was thinking of writing her a letter like I did my mom do you think that would work or is talking to her the best way to go

[Dena]

At 9 years old, I am not sure her reading ability would be able to properly handle a letter. It wouldn't hurt for you to write up what you want to say so you are prepared to tell her and if she wants it, you could give her what you wrote.

[preston j sannicolas]

Ok I'll tell her in the next few days I would like to tell her before my b day on the 28th but I don't know of I can work up the courage to thank you

[Laura_7]

Here at the second link is a brochure with pictures:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,197523.msg1756901.html#msg1756901


You also might look up some vids with Jazz Jennings, she is really cute and nice. Its possible they can help with understanding, coming from another kid.


*hugs*

[suzifrommd]

So I want to tell my little sister that I'm trans .I want to do this because I feel like her not knowing is holding me back.problem is I don't know where to start she is 9 years old and a major Tom boy.I just don't know how to tell her or explain to her about me being a girl.

For a 9-year-old, the world revolves around her. She will take the news only in the terms it affects her.

Would something like this work?:

Sometimes there are boys who don't like being boys. They need to be girls. I don't know why, but I'm one of those people. Don't worry, you'll still be my wonderful sister, and I'll still love you a lot, and I'll still be the same person I always was.

Don't be surprised if this is not a big deal for her (unless you seem very upset about it).

As others have said, I'd skip the letter and just tell her in person.

[purplewuggybird]

I know a friend who made sure to talk to her parents really loudly about her being bi with her sister near so her sister knew but would feel guilty questioning her about it. I personally don't like this approach but hey it's an idea.


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[Mariah]

I agree I would tell her face to face and explain how you feel and why. You won't need to as detailed with her as you would an adult. Hugs
Mariah