Quote from: Fresas con Nata on April 10, 2016, 03:59:19 AM
Congrats for your achievements! I'm very interested in everything related to coming out at work so thank you for your detailed post above.
I guess at some point you stop thinking about what you have done because it becomes easier to think about what's left to be done 
. What's left for you? Any progress with your mother/brother/wife?
Thank you so very much, and you're so very welcome! I hope it will be beneficial to you. Everybody's timeline and experiences are different of course. I look back now and feel like I may have rushed things in the eyes of some people, but I look at my progress and I am so so so very happy that it went at the pace it did. I am right where I need to be and when I need to be there. My social transition is virtually completed, and just in time for my annual review at work! LOL.
I think less about all of it really. I wrote down my feelings a lot in the beginning, but now I'm just me and I'm happy so I feel like there's less or no need. I've got a long ways to go still, but it's already been a year since I started so I know the next year will go by more quickly since I have less anxiety these days, haha. The happy times are always fleeting it seems. I have my surgery consult in August of this year and will probably schedule surgery for the following summer, but we'll see. Other than surgery though, the only things I have left are changing all of my documents, filling out my wardrobe (need summer clothes!), and learning to do makeup, hehe. Body hair removal continues, and my head hair continues to grow out. I'm highlighting it slowly with the anticipation of going lavender/purple in about 4-6 months, hehe. I also want to feminize some of my tattoos and get another one to memorialize my daughter's birth.
My father and sister still don't talk to me and I'm fine with that.
My brother recently cut me off because...reasons... I don't really know the details, but he's either got issues with me or issues misdirected at me as I make an adequate scapegoat at this time. I hope that he might eventually come around, but I don't harbor him any ill-will and just wait patiently for that day. I miss him though, we had some good times together.
I just went to visit my mother and grandfather yesterday. My grandfather still knows nothing, and my mother can't deal with it, so we don't talk about it and I just present more neutrally around them both. Polo shirts, jeans and sneakers with no makeup or earrings. I think she maintains a relationship with me just to get to my daughter at this point (which is better than nothing I guess). My breasts are impossible to hide now without really baggy clothes (which I refuse to wear), my hair is getting longer, and my figure and face continue to feminize every day. It's impossible not to notice at this point. My grandfather though remains oblivious, perhaps largely because he is distracted by my daughter and his own mortality? I don't know how much longer he'll be around.
Extended family? Who knows. Some of them know something, but I don't know who or how much. Frankly though, I never felt overtly connected to any of them except for my uncles. One of them recently passed away and the other one moved to Florida though, so I haven't seen them in years. C'est la vie! One day I'll see them again maybe, maybe not.
My wife's mother's family all know, and they're cool with it mostly. I haven't spoken to my father-in-law since about September of last year, and I don't know how much the rest of that side knows. He apparently can't handle it either or something, so we'll see what happens there too.
I think that's about it. Not the rosiest of family situations, but not the worst perhaps. The best part though is that I have surrounded myself with an amazing support network of friends. They are what get me by now. They are my family.
Quote from: suzifrommd on April 10, 2016, 07:39:19 AM
Indeed!
