Elizabeth,
Great to hear that you and your wife are making such progress. My wife has always been very supportive and for many years I have dressed freely at home and have made forays out into public (admittedly under select circumstances). However, as I have come to learn that I am a transgendered person rather than a transvestite, we have reached somewhat of an impasse. I would like to proceed with selected physical transitions but we have reached reached her comfort level and things like HRT are a step too far. I am hoping that the "easy does it / no pressure" approach will work for us as well.
Congrats to you and your wife!
Miril