HRT in military reserves

[lisagurl]

Oh come on, do I really come across as uneducated and unintelligent?

Yes very naive.

You can get a job, rent a room and finish college on grants and a loan. In the military you lose most your rights and I would not be surprised if you would end up in the brig, hurt or some other disastrous problem. Remember most of the people in Iraq are reserves.

[kalt]

Oh come on, do I really come across as uneducated and unintelligent?

Yes very naive.

You can get a job, rent a room and finish college on grants and a loan. In the military you lose most your rights and I would not be surprised if you would end up in the brig, hurt or some other disastrous problem. Remember most of the people in Iraq are reserves.

Phooey.
This is making me all very, very stressed out lately.
Fortune might look up for me though, my rents have declared bankruptcy and they're getting kicked out of the house.  I'm the only one who's credit isn't spoiled, so they might need me to get a new apartment term.  It'd be kinda hard to kick me out of a place which is being rented in my name...
I told me father if my mother's act didn't change soon(she's horrible), and he didn't divorce her, I'd go through with a full name change.
So, I guess I'll go do that soon:-)
Atleast then, I can go by that name so all my credits and job history can go under that name too.  Less hassle later.
Rawr.
Annwyn Sabriel Kalt sounds likea good name.
I can't tell you guys which order it's gonna be in, I think announcing real names is prohibited.

[Rachael]

i might later,, but never again as a male.
R

[kalt]

Well guys... I made my decision!

I can't call up and tell me recruiter I "quit," beacuse then he'll be in contact with my father and tell him what's up and I'll be kicked out promptly.

However, by mailing them letters telling them that I'm a psychological, homosexual ->-bleeped-<- mess unsuitable for the mariens and all, I'm sure I could get disqualified in no time.

Anyone up for the challenge?  PM me.  I've already got the addresses and the letter, so all that's to be done is pritn it out, write down the address in the center of the envelope, and put it in the mailbox.

Otherwise I'll be left to suffer a fate of... yucky manly underarm stench.  Or worse.

[shanetastic]

Now you shaved your head for nothing

Congrats on making a decision.

[kalt]

Now you shaved your head for nothing

Congrats on making a decision.

Yeah.. you're right.
Actually, when I cut my hair I got a job:-P

I would never have gotten my dream job of being a personal trainer looking like a washed up hippy on steroids>.>

[lisagurl]

You will probably have to appeal your physical and go back with letters from a therapist. Nothing with the military is simple. It took me 4 years and over 1000 pieces of paper to get out of the draft with a 4F.  Lawyers, doctors, etc.

[kalt]

I called my recruiter.
I told him I had a history of hormone therapy that wasn't dialogued, in-patient mental history that's indialogued, and he's still very clear that he I'm fine and good to ship out>.>

[KarenLyn]

Do whatever you feel you must. I for one, believe you can do a tour in the marines without a problem as long as you're not in the infantry. For the most part, being in the marines is just like having a regular job. There are going to be stupid head games along the way but as long as you can handle those, you'll do just fine. You just have to remember, it's their game and their rules.
They will not cover any type of hormone therapy including just anti androgens. If you insist on starting them, then I would recommend you wait until after basic training.
You can't hide anything there. You'll live in an open barracks with communal restrooms and showers. You do what they tell you when they tell you to do it. The drill instructors will try to break your spirit.
When I went through boot camp, we started the day lined up at the foot of our bunks in our underwear while the drill instructors went through making sure everything was as it should be. If your foot locker wasn't locked it would end up upside down in the middle of the room. If your bunk wasn't made to their satisfaction they would tip the whole thing over then have you do push ups for 40 minutes or until they got tired of watching. Then they give you 2 minutes to put it all right again. And don't leave a puddle of sweat on the floor.
If you can get through all their head games it's easy after that.
Good luck with whatever you decide.

All that aside, I made it through and believe just about anyone can if they can just play by the rules.

Karen Lyn
USMC - Semper Fidelis

[Rachael]

did you say m2f hormone therapy? not just t boosters in puberty? and its not just a history, you want to take MORE m2f hrt WHILE serving.
US MILITERY DOESNT LIKE TRANS PEOPLE
wanting to join, and being in the militery are two different things, as i and every other person who has been in will tell you, it sucks...
R

[Berliegh]

Now you shaved your head for nothing

Congrats on making a decision.

Yeah.. you're right.
Actually, when I cut my hair I got a job:-P

I would never have gotten my dream job of being a personal trainer looking like a washed up hippy on steroids>.>

I thought the idea of a Male to Female transition was just that.......but you got a job as a man not a woman..

Maybe you should be posting in another section? most people in this section of the forum are sure of their sexual identity and where they are heading.......you clearly are not.......you can't live two lives if you want to be transsexual..

[kalt]

did you say m2f hormone therapy? not just t boosters in puberty? and its not just a history, you want to take MORE m2f hrt WHILE serving.
US MILITERY DOESNT LIKE TRANS PEOPLE
wanting to join, and being in the militery are two different things, as i and every other person who has been in will tell you, it sucks...
R

I said, "I was on feminizing hormone therapy in my younger teens to become female, ya know?  The whole friggin dangum transsexual deal?"

He says, "oh don't worry about it.  I'm sure you'll be just fine."

It's obvious he's never encountered it or he's full of it.
It's also obvious he isn't ready to let me go.

Posted on: October 07, 2007, 10:43:53 AM

I thought the idea of a Male to Female transition was just that.......but you got a job as a man not a woman..

Maybe you should be posting in another section? most people in this section of the forum are sure of their sexual identity and where they are heading.......you clearly are not.......you can't live two lives if you want to be transsexual..

Please stop with comments like these as they're highly offensive.  You haven't been put in mental hospitals by your parents simply because you got on HRT.  You haven't walked in my shoes, so you don't know how hard, how painful, how much of a struggle this has been for me, such as my entire highschool district knowing who I was, where I lived, and everything about me that I didn't want anyone to know.

I'm used to living in the spotlight by now Berleigh.  Ever since I was a little kid I've been mistaken for female.  I am not scared of transitioning in plain daylight anymore, because I'm not going to live my life lying about who I am, and Im' not going to betray all the people I know and who count on me by just dissapearing.  I will not live with a guilty conscious, I will not live hiding it.  When there's nothing to hide anymore(after the surgery), then I'll have things to consider.  I'm not going to go advertizing it, in fact I'm planning to move to the near city in Columbia(where I lived a year ago, before coming to beaufort) in just a year at a university where I'll be continuing my transition, probably at this stage more as an androgynous individual before I hit up being fulltime female.

I am who I am and I'm not ashamed of it, and therefore I will not hide it.

I know exactly who I am.  You don't.  Don't you dare judge me.

[Gabrielle]

You do of course realize that in the reserves, you will stand a good chance of being deployed to Iraq or anywhere else?  While on deployment it will be very hard to get HRT.

[Rachael]

sorry, but which bit of you is constantly mistaken for a girl? you showed us a crew cutted pumped up young man photo?
R

[lisagurl]

It's obvious he's never encountered it or he's full of it.
It's also obvious he isn't ready to let me go.

Once you signed those papers the recruiter got a point toward his goal and he will not give it back. You seriously need a lawyer familiar with military law and start to fight your recruitment. The other option is forget transition and play the game.

[Berliegh]

sorry, but which bit of you is constantly mistaken for a girl? you showed us a crew cutted pumped up young man photo?
R

....point well made Rachel........I don't know how the mistake could be made?

[ketti]

sorry, but which bit of you is constantly mistaken for a girl? you showed us a crew cutted pumped up young man photo?
R

....point well made Rachel........I don't know how the mistake could be made?

Well, with clothes on and longer hair it would be easier right? Also, looks isn't everything. If you behave girlish people will think you are a girl from time to time no matter how you look. A lot of real girls don't look anything like a girl

[Berliegh]

sorry, but which bit of you is constantly mistaken for a girl? you showed us a crew cutted pumped up young man photo?
R

....point well made Rachel........I don't know how the mistake could be made?

Well, with clothes on and longer hair it would be easier right? Also, looks isn't everything. If you behave girlish people will think you are a girl from time to time no matter how you look. A lot of real girls don't look anything like a girl

What a lot of nonsense...

[ketti]

What a lot of nonsense...

Hehe, if you say so ^^
Notice i said behaviour will make people think you are a girl from time to time. Well, maybe that wouldn't happen adult males. But in kalts case those being-mistaken-for-a-girl-occasions probably all happened during early and mid teenage. Also i don't think the rest i said was nonsense either. But i respect if you think everything i say is nonsense. If you elaborate why i would probably agree with you too

[shanetastic]

Out of curiosity, why the need to bash kalt so much.  He (is it okay if i say that kalt?) has made decisions in his life just like all you have.  Sure it's understandable that sometimes we regret our actions, which I'm certain all of you can vouch for, but to me it seems like everyone is sort of ganging up and just trying to scare him away.

If he's certain of what he wants to do and he shares his choices with us, isn't it more nice and more appropriate to just share some non bias'd views and advice for him.  I'm not really here to try to challenge what he says he does and does not do in his life, because it's not mine.  If I can give some advice though or help him out in any way, although; I will. 

I'm sorry if he hasn't been on HRT for as long as you all, but I think he's just here for some help in moving his life the way he wants it to.