Going on a date?

[Brandon]

So there's this girl and we both recently discovered we like eachother, she knows I am trans and all that good ->-bleeped-<- but the problem is I am really shy when it comes to girls she wants me to catch a movie with her this Saturday and I am nervous because before and after the movie there's gonna be talking and I don't know what to say lol, last tine I seen her at the mall my boy kept pressuring me to go over and talk to her but I froze up and now that I actually have a date and we talk talk I am nervous😯

[invisiblemonsters]

don't over think it. when you're together, conversation just happens. the convo will change constantly, stories will be told, etc. if you have a funny story, even if it isn't relevant (aka not a lot of talking is happening) tell it. tell her what you like, ask her what she likes. you'll see things that remind you of something that happened that you can tell her, etc. it's hard when you're nervous and shy but don't over think it and it will generally just "flow" if you two have a connection.

[Brandon]

don't over think it. when you're together, conversation just happens. the convo will change constantly, stories will be told, etc. if you have a funny story, even if it isn't relevant (aka not a lot of talking is happening) tell it. tell her what you like, ask her what she likes. you'll see things that remind you of something that happened that you can tell her, etc. it's hard when you're nervous and shy but don't over think it and it will generally just "flow" if you two have a connection.

I think I can do that lol but it doesn't help that she is shy either so me and her both gotta work on that but I think I can handle it I just have to relax

[Laura_7]

Baseline is you like her and she likes you. Just show it. Be nice, be yourself.
Be nice, and try to show some humour.
But don't be too adapting, show some opinions of your own.
Like being a gentleman with your own head.

Be a bit active... opening doors, making suggestions for food...

Just be yourself, open up a bit and try to have some fun.

And you might talk about a few details on her... nice earrings... maybe later nice lips... just relax.


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[CMD042414]

I'm alot older than you I think so I might not be hip to what the kids are doing these days but first dates at a movie are generally not the best way to get to know someone. You basically sit in silence next to each other for 2 hours. However I can understand why that is attractive to both of you being that you are shy.

Be yourself first and foremost. We all wear a mask in the beginning but being authentic will ensure that she likes you and not just infatuation phase you. Your authentic self is shy. If it were me I would acknowledge that by saying something like, "hey I'm going to be honest I'm kind of shy in these situations so go easy on me" Break the ice early and make her laugh about it.  Flip it and make it a strength that even though you may not know exactly what to say or when, you're so confident in yourself that you can just be straight up about it and own it like a boss. Most likely she will say so am I so its cool. There's your first common trait. Let if flow from there.

Compliment her for sure. If you stick with a movie maybe chat with her about what type of movies she likes. Conversation should be organic. Let it flow. One topic leads to another and so on. Remember she is just as nervous! You don't have to me Mr. Suave all of the time.

[Brandon]

All you guys are giving great advice keep coming😌👌👏

[Laura_7]

I'm alot older than you I think so I might not be hip to what the kids are doing these days but first dates at a movie are generally not the best way to get to know someone. You basically sit in silence next to each other for 2 hours.

Well I would say its a good choice depending on the movie.

You can laugh together and build kind of a common experience.

And afterwards its a lot of food for conversation. You might talk about a few scenes you liked best, and make some connections to things you know... what happened to a relative of yours... what you also did... what you like... etc...
"I saw her wearing that button on her shirt. Do you like them too ?" ... "I have a friend who makes those. I have visited him, and he has a large variety of them. My favourites are... " etc...

Tell your story, involve her, ask her and hear her out, and laugh together...

It might be favourable to go to the movie first and eat and chat afterwards.

*hugs*