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First therapist visit tomorrow, don't know exactly where to begin.

Started by amightywizard, January 09, 2016, 09:44:38 PM

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amightywizard

Hello all.  My sincerest apologies for the rambling wall of text you are now being subjected to.

I'm a 27-year-old male who recently came to the realization that I'm dysphoric.  I'm married and have a three-year-old daughter, so I was initially terrified of saying anything to anyone at all.  For as long as I can remember, I've had feelings that I just didn't fit somehow.  I never had the right words to describe what I felt, but I knew that something was just... off.  I remember wishing I was a girl from a very early age, but just sort of resigned myself to the body I was in.  As the years passed, the feelings remained, though they'd come and go as the days went by.  I made the most of my masculine form.  I grew a beard, got married(to a pansexual woman, which I didn't know was going to be a huge bonus years later), had a baby, brought home bacon(proverbial and actual), consumed bacon(actual only).  Typical man things.  But it still wasn't exactly me.  Being a husband and father kept my mind busy, but the thoughts would still manifest occasionally, though I didn't even realize it.  In the last few days, however, it has suddenly come into focus.  I can say confidently that I do have gender dysphoria.  It's not as severe as some of the stories I've read or heard, but it's definitely there.  I've grown up with this body for 27 years, and while I still wish I was a woman, I find myself fairly comfortable as a man as well.  I told my wife yesterday, and she was very accepting.  I really got very lucky that she's attracted to boobs.  She has questions, of course, and I have so many swimming through my head that I don't even know them all yet.  I was able to find a therapist who has a home office and would speak to me tomorrow, so I'm going to meet with her and really try to sort out all of these thoughts and feelings and get a handle on everything.

Now, since you've been so kind as to indulge me, I'd like to ask a question.  I'm both excited and nervous to speak with her, and I have absolutely no idea where to begin tomorrow.  Do any of you have any advice for a person in my position?
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elf

I've seen my therapist twice and I just started by telling her how I felt. Felt really good to talk to some one that really understood.
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Michelle86

Following this too as I'm planning to see a therapist next week.  Hopefully (for both of us) the therapist will be comfortable with leading the discussion.
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Lillian_b_tv

I only had one theripst appointment. She felt strongly that I did my research and sounded like I knew what I wanted. She said if I had more questions or wanted to talk that I could come back but don't need to. Be calm and speak clearly.
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