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Coming out with hostilty from family and no support from them

Started by blossom, March 06, 2016, 03:50:26 PM

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blossom

I came out to my family back in 2010 that I needed to transition to living as a female. Unfortunately, it was met with very aggressive and sometimes cruel hostility. My interactions with my family have not been the same ever since then and I do not feel loved genuinely and definitely not unconditionally. How should I feel about this? :'( How can I cope?

I see videos on YouTube of people saying they were supported by their families and it makes me happy for them, but I feel left out because I do not know what that experience is like. :-\
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Laura_7

Many *hugs*

Well there are quite a few transgender peple where parents are not understanding...

this could help you:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,197598.msg1757491.html#msg1757491

Do you have some friends you could talk with about this ?
Are there some transgender support groups in your place ?

If you want to talk there is also a chat on susans...

And you might have a look here, maybe you could make some friends there:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,195129.msg1758946.html#msg1758946


*hugs*
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Ms Grace

Sadly, as the saying goes, you cannot choose your family. Some families are supportive of trans people but many others, for any number of reasons, are not. My mother has been very accepting and supportive. My father was angry at me for over a year and while he probably still is he is prepared to talk to me. My sister and brother have barely communicated with me in two years, their young daughters (my nieces) don't even know they have an aunty. The one person in my family who I expected to be the most supportive, my sister, has been the least. It is heartbreaking, I know, to have your family treat you like some kind of criminal. From my point of view, I am always open to my brother and sister properly reconnecting but until then I just need to put it out of my mind as it is too painful to dwell on.
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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SerenaMary92

in any troubling tims the best thing to do is cling to your name and identity it gives me strength a decent chunk of the time
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blossom

Thank you so much Ms. Grace. Your story sounds very similar to mine! You really helped me a lot!!
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